r/hatemyjob

Ive worked at DairyQueen as a assistant manager for a year i got offered a new position at Menards starting at $18.50 FT. Anyway i put in my two weeks 4 days in and i quit…. I told them i no longer work for them someone is going to have to cover the rest of my shift for the week thank you i wish you the best. So now my boyfriend is telling me that was a bad idea because now i cant use them as a reference and my resume is ruined and that 1 year experience i did was for nothing and went down the drain but honestly who checks references now a days?

Hey! I have a construction helper job that pays me $20 an hour(usually 35-40 hours weeks) with no benefits and even insurance/work comp. We located in NYC my monthly expenses are only like $1300 so i save everything what left.

I know its very low and i never worked in construction before, the job is not easy most of the time is me carrying something heavy for the whole day back and forth. I worked here for about a year and want to quit now i got some experience bought some tools got OSHA.

I think with that experience i can get better construction job that pays i dunno at least $25 with work comp but i may be wrong

but the thing is what keeping me at this job is how im being treated and i made friends here, boss is a good guy not an asshole, i never been treated bad and he listens to every guy at the job.

i dont know what to do

Hey guys,

Have you ever been in that weird situation where you already know your time at the office is almost over?

I have about one month left at my current job because there’s no more related work available for my role. Nobody is toxic, nobody is forcing me out — it’s just the situation.

But honestly, it’s mentally strange. You keep showing up every day knowing the countdown has already started. It becomes hard to stay motivated while also worrying about what comes next.

I didn’t expect this phase to feel this emotionally exhausting.

Has anyone else gone through something similar? How did you handle it mentally?

I've been reading posts in the sub today and i couldn't find one similar to my position. I'm a 27 year old artist, although i have a decent social media presence, music is not paying my bills yet so i rely financially on my job as an independent realtor.

I started in 2023 and for some reason it went really well, made a lot of money, i was good at it and received constant validation from colleagues. However, it always made me extremely unhappy, my creative side suffered, i felt numb most of the time, the environment and people in the industry are also extremely uninspiring. I even stopped going to conventions and industry events because i literally had a panic attack the last time i went to one because of how miserable it made me feel. When i meet new people i introduce myself as an artist, but sometimes people recognize me as a realtor (I have a popular tik tok account for my realtor stuff) and i feel so ashamed. I hate having the "realtor" tag attached to myself, to my identity, i hate that part of my life, but i kept going because i make good money and i can use that money to fund my music related projects.

On november 2025 a client asked me to manage his properties/tenants for a monthly fee. I've managed properties before so it wasn't a big deal. The monthly fee covers about 50% of my monthly expenses so i slowed down on my realtor side for a while and never been happier. A month ago i said to myself that i needed to make more money to keep funding my music projects and i resumed my realtor duties, but i can't do it anymore. I stare at my laptop for minutes without generating a single thought, seems like my brain goes out of my head every time i try to work. I tell myself "do it for the music", "you've got bills to pay", "you need the money", but i just can't do it, it's extremely frustrating.

I'd love to have another kind of job, something within media or creative industries, but i can't really afford money-wise and time-wise a career change right now. Although i much rather have a fulfilling job/life before a full wallet, the reality is i have bills to pay, rent, food, credit cards, projects to fund. Quitting being a realtor would mean a big restructuring moment in my life that sadly can't go through with right now.

Seriously, I go hide someplace where there isn't a security camera and just lie down somewhere where nobody except spiders go. Since I'm unable to quit working because of bills, I just disappear for 5 hours and resurface occasionally so I look like I've just been working around all day.

Just needed to vent this somewhere.

A few years ago, I moved across the county, from the east coast to the northwest, after interviewing and accepting a job online. The job description seemed right up my alley for what I was already doing, so it seemed a good fit. (Engineering related. That's a close as I am comfortable saying) The company paid my relocation fees specifically through one moving company that they needed to work with, costing them around $20k.

I got there for my orientation, but my boss wasn't there for the first week or so (I'll get to that later). So another engineer walks me through everything and get me up to speed on my responsibilities. But the more he was explaining it, the less I was understanding why he was telling me certain details. Confused, I asked him, "oh, so when will I be doing such and such per the job description?" That's when looked at me really confused and said "no, that position is in a different location in A DIFFERENT STATE." My boss had literally described an entirely different job position to hire me during the interview process which I was technically qualified for but had no desire to do.

Keep in mind that I had just moved my entire family across the country for this job that I did not want. On top of that, the company policy stated that if I tried to quit before 2 years, I would owe them $20k for the moving fees. Not that I could quit, as I no longer knew anybody here that could set me up with another job. So I decided to stay and give it a shot for a while.

Well, it's been years now (I stayed a little longer so that my stocks would at least vest) and I can confirm that this job has killed my soul in a way that no other ever has.

My job, functionally, is to make instruction manuals for workers to use in order to make our products. These manuals are 100s of pages long. The kicker: nobody reads them. Nope, don't need to. They all already know how to do it or just ask someone on the spot. My job is unnecessary and just exists to fill a required company slot that nobody wants. Otherwise, I do nothing all day but try and look busy. Which while some people may love, this kills me inside. I can't even waste time or study for something, I just need to stare at an unchanging monitor screen all day. (I know some people say they would love that. I do not. I truly do miss working hard and accomplishing things.)

My boss, as it turns out, it's nearly never here. He "works remotely", but really does nothing from home. He is the only person who is allowed to do this per his rules. We see him about 10 hours a week.

Recently, he has been trying to gaslight me by saying that as a salary employee, I should be working 55 hours a week, adding extra unpaid hours. He also wants me to take on more responsibilities. Specifically his, since he isn't around to do them. That way, he wouldn't really need to work at all II do his job for him.

On top of that I did try once to make the best of things and came up with something that would increase our profits by about 10% a year. The other divisions loved the idea and are implementing it. My boss? Upset that I came up with an idea without telling him and working on it. That year, he gave me no pay raise because of it. Not that it was all that different, as I have yet to responsibilities araise greater than inflation since getting here.

I'm applying elsewhere now. A few companies are confused why I seemingly went backwards in my job progression with this job. I just side step the answer a little bit.

I am still hopeful for my next job, but these last few years have been depressing in a way I cannot describe.

Anyways, that's it. I just needed to vent for a second.

I know you dont bring personal problems at work and dont bring work at home. But as a leader I am constantly thinking about job and how to maintain our standards. I’ve been promoted as a manager since 2022. At 1st it was fine then now being more stressful as we are short staffed too. It’s not much but more than enough. I’m thinking if I just quit or demote myself but I have bills and 2 kids. Everyday I think of how to call out, I dont even want to be there anymore but yeah living in NYC with bills to pay and kids to take care of I cant just quit 😭

I was thinking of leaving in January, but with no places replying back (to replace that income) made me rethink. But after today, I realized that I dread it so much (literally 11 out of 10) I'm thinking of just quitting. I've forced myself to be there for over 20 years, and all it's given me is misery.

I still live at home, I've fallen into that role of an informal caregiver for my elderly mother, I have $16k saved in the bank, my job has July/August off, and resumes in September, and I literally dread being around those people/coworkers. As of now...I really don't want to return. So folks, there is my situation.

Has anyone else just snapped and left a job? I'm on the verge of that now. To be honest--at this point it's less about finding other income--and more about I'm just sick of work in general.

Hey, I'm curious how you deal with stress and burnout at the work?

I just joined what I thought was my dream job but the reality feels different. I don't feel motivated at all.

What do you do to combat this and why do I feel this way?

I'm working as a data scientist btw

i recently accepted a new position for a direct competitor of my current company. for some context, i’m 24F working in the design/power engineering industry.

anyways, i am going to give my two weeks soon, and i know for a fact that they will ask if the company i’m going to work for is a competitor. i know this because i reached out to someone who previously quit who went to work for said company and they actually didn’t get walked out because they lied when asked. i am super anxious about the whole being walked out thing. most people i have talked about it to have never heard of companies doing such a thing before and to me it seems like a straight up embarrassment and a tad disrespectful. seeking any and all advice for how to go about this in the smoothest way possible.

also to add to the anxiety, in the past my boss has called whole office meetings to discuss after someone has been walked out and the thought of all that negative attention makes me want to cry. i have been debating lying and saying i am moving out of the state so it forced me to get a new job , even if it is with a competitor, just so it doesn’t make me look as bad. but at the same time, i’m like why should i even care what these people think?? especially if they’re immediately going to toss me out the second i give my notice. i’m aware this decision comes from HR and not my direct bosses but it’s still beyond frustrating. my friends have told me to walk out with confidence but im just not sure i can do that.

i’m also wondering if it would be awful of me to do it next tuesday (so that i would get paid for memorial day), or if i should just get it out of the way and do it friday so i don’t have to keep thinking about it.

i’m dreading the conversation i know will inevitably come when i submit my notice. i’ve always really struggled with authority figures. once again, any advice is welcome and appreciated. thanks! :)

Hi folks,

Ever since the last round of RIF, I have been thinking of resigning. I don't have an offer in my hand, but it seems impossible to prepare for interviews while working for this team. My dependency in this team is really high and it doesn't seem like it's going to get any better in the near future. I don't even get time to do basic socialising as well, let alone prepare for interviews.

I know it is very risky, given the job market, but continuously working in this team is draining all my mental health. The only way I think I can find a new job is by resigning from here first. Am I the only one thinking to resign?

hope anyone can relate but i just hatttttttteeeee my job so much and i genuinly wanna know if im the problem and entitled or this job is sucking the life out of me and i meed to quit. well i would say it is. because i have anxiety attacks about work and dread going so much everyday. every evening i just think about how horrible the next day will be. im a media specialist. mostly do video cutting. and im good at it aswell. its just that i cant do a task so repetitively. anything will get boring to me tbh. so if i quit every job might feel like this. well at least i can joke about dumb office rule. „ever minute counts so im loosing money while youre making your coffee“ well im loosing braincells talking to you. HOW do yall manage your 9-5 40 hrs a WEEK.

I started my job with idiopathic gastroparesis and sciatica that would bother me at times. Now I have a lot more health problems.i drag myself into a retail job that I never wanted to be at, but because I was turned down for disability I took it out of desperation. I had a bad feeling about the job even before I applied for it even though I live close by. I never thought over the 8 or 9 years I was there , my health would get much worse. I have 6 specialists for different problems and drag myself in since I haven't been approved of disability yet, and the job doesn't offer sick days. I had to cut down. On my hours due to my disability case and because my body is in horrible shape. I will always regret taking that job and have told others that they do come to work there to go somewhere else.

I am just so tired and need to vent. My coworkers and I all vent to each other and I wish there was something we could do but there’s not. This company makes an insane amount and we have been short staffed for 4 years! The calls are over 500+ a day and has gotten to 3000 holding in a day. They won’t hire and when they do it’s not Michigan residents. It was not like this my first year but it’s gotten bad. We are micro managed because they have no one else to work so even if we have to use the bathroom we can’t be gone for more than 2 minutes without getting checked on. We get no perks maybe a 10 dollar gift card once in a blue moon. No Christmas gift. No nothing. Not even gear with their logo. Our pay is not great and we get no discount on their services that we have to use. We get cussed at all day because of people are angry with wait times and service but this company could care less about its employees and customers. I’m drained

Hey guys,

Needing a bit of advice here.

So basically two months ago, I started my role as a Data Analyst in a healthcare company. I was already working in healthcare previously as an RN (clinical front line for just over 2 years, the rest had been in strategic roles and insurance based roles).

I decided to fully transition and get into Data Analytics (I know saturated etc etc..) in September last year after leaving my previous role as a Product Manager (Insurance).

I took a boot camp course in Data Analytics and taught me all the basics during my career break. I applied to 60 entry level roles, got offered 15 interviews and 6 job offers including where I am now. Considering the job market then (January-March 2026) I feel that I didn’t do too bad.

I am now in my 3rd in my current role and I feel like my skills are not being fully utilised and feel more of an assistant to my line manager. The role I originally applied for was a Junior Data Analyst Assistant, they then changed it to Data Analyst after interview. I accepted because I needed a job then my other offers were a bit of a trek to get to.

My manager does not let me get involved in meetings where my strengths will be a great asset to the company, he doesn’t invite me or start inviting me to meetings that are most relevant to my job but rather relays some of the actions needed and passes on the hard work to me with little to no support at all. We handle very large and complex data sets and we all do them on Excel which frankly I am quite proficient in. Since I started, I created dashboards, analysed data and made recommendations internally to the company and our stakeholders. He acknowledges that my pay is very low (it is, slightly less than minimum wage. Prior to my career transition, my average income over a 6 year period was £52-£67k a year)

It is now becoming more and more apparent that I am being treated as another pair of hands because he has said numerous times that the reason why they recruited for my role was to ease the pressure of him as he was previously the only person doing what I am doing now.

He’s a nice guy but right now it is exhausting and I feel devalued and feel that my skills are better suited elsewhere.

Any advices? Shall I start looking again?

I am UK based and the I keep seeing lots of vacancies for data analysts currently.

I feel so stuck

I literally spend most of my time in a small office and staring at a screen. Nearly every moment I’m thinking about bills and responsibilities and I don’t get much free time for myself. It’s the same thing every day and the next day and then the next day… My friends moved out and we don’t see each other as much as we used to. I wish I could be more positive but I’m totally bummed out

I hate my job. The customers are bad, but it's not even the customers that stress me as much. It's the micromangement. My job had many restrictions, but I initally didn't mind because I believe in rules, and boundaries to aid in structure. However, with this company, they come up with stricter rules by the week. Now, they've added more rules to ask for help. We have to get permission from our supervisor who's never available or responds before contacting helplines. Each rule making it harder to do my job. On top of that, I feel targeted by my supervisor due to my hold times going above 2 minutes from me asking for help, and not getting help. She calls me out everytime my hold time is approaching the 2 minute mark. I thought about putting myself in debt to get a loan, just to quit and spend 8 hours a day job searching. Hell, I even thought about working in fast food. However, the job market is so bad right now. I hate the time period that we live in. If I could turn back the hands of time to pre-covid, I'd do so many things differently. Lazy people and capitalism RUINED remote work.

Hey everyone, I need to vent, as I’m not doing well mentally right now.

I feel like I’m at one of the lowest points I’ve been in a while, my best friend and baby kitten recently died, my other baby cat could also be sick with the same disease as the one that killed my other kitten, and my dog was diagnosed with cancer.

I live in a small town with no work opportunity, with only a few friends to do my hobby Brazilian jiujitsu with, which has been a major identity of mine for the last six years.

On top of all of this my job is horrendous, it’s early mornings, late nights, on call 24/7 as it’s supply chain management position with angry customers.

I hate my job to the point where I dread every day, weekends don’t feel like rest anymore as I’m constantly being blown up with phone calls, teams chats and email all throughout the night while I sleep and during my ‘rest days’. PTO is not PTO, as I constantly get called or text from leadership who needs things done since they’re burning.

I start dreading Monday the previous Friday, I feel numb and always walking around with high anxiety constantly.

What makes it unbearable is that, the workplace environment is terrible, I can’t stand my boss, there are no benefits, an almost impossible bonus structure, limited promotion path, almost nothing, and am significantly underpaid for the level of responsibility of this position.

This job is soulless.

Many of my counterparts call on PTO, sick leave or quit with nobody to backfill there positions, often leading me to do the work of two to three people in a day u til there is a replacement

After work I only have a couple of hours to cook, eat, get ready for the next day, and to try to have a life with my partner. I feel like I’m barely surviving. This is far from sustainable.

I’m trying my best to get past these 6 months as my lease ends and hope to move to Austin with my partner