I see a lot of people talking about how to get magnetic charisma. Here’s how:
You don’t. You either have it or you don’t.
Charisma is something you simply have. You can’t learn it because people can smell performance. Charisma isn’t being the loudest or most extroverted person in the room, by the way. What most people don’t understand is that people who have this magnetic personality don’t want people approaching them or being around them. It’s a consequence of their behavior. This is tied to self-assurance and authenticity. When you have it, you don’t need anyone’s approval or validation to exist. So you automatically become supremely confident. Ironically, people who wish they had this personality don’t realize that having magnetic charisma means you’ll “dismiss” most people around you, like they literally don’t clock on your radar. So you turn into a magnet; you attract people who are looking to get perceived.
It’s a super draining thing to have, though, because you become a source of validation, just like a currency. People will feel you owe them a nod, a small conversation, or yielding space for them. If you’re a man, it’s a hell of an experience because you will get a ton of attention from women, but guess what, they’re just looking for your attention or validation since it’s so scarce. So it’s actually more difficult to know if a woman is truly interested in you or not.
So yeah, people have it wrong. You attract people because they’re looking for something from you.