u/Cadet-ho-bag

How’s the crowd at Knotts today? Ghost Rider calls 😎

Would you still wait? I was in a 15 year relationship. No children but always a plan to try again (i lost in second trimester) A proposal with a ring but instead of setting dates he wanted to take trips to Europe. I don’t think I realized how controlling this relationship was. In 2024 he tells me he wants to join the army at age 36 and me a female now 37. He was also speaking to a recruiter without my knowledge for awhile.. long story short He left and joined before making anything secure with me at home. He left me with my ebt card and a promise of a better future when he returns. The kid will come as will the marriage when he’s done with boot. So I moved in with a friend. He wouldn’t send money or help with bills but offered to fly me out for his graduation… I didn’t go. I couldn’t even afford a haircut or an outfit to wear but he wanted to buy my plane ticket :/ That never happened. It’s been three years of him either ghosting me or messaging me telling me he joined the military to make me happy and for me to fill proud of him being in a uniform. I’ve been made to feel that I don’t support soldiers or him or anything really. Fast forward I hadn’t heard from him in the last year or so and this week he messaged me on my birthday telling me he’s home from the army due to a severe accident in New York back in February. He broke almost every bone in his body multiple surgeries and I’m just now hearing of this. And now there’s small attempts to get me back. Messaging my parents too. I feel attacked. I’ve moved on. I’ve been broken trying to pay bills, mentally keep myself afloat and understand that my future of having a child is most likely out now. it scares me how people try to control you. I’m dyslexic and have a learning difficulty, If this post is difficult to read I do apologize for that. I think I just wanted to air this out and maybe if anyone has been through something similar? Advice? Thank you for reading.

A few months back I was seeing this 42M and I’m 37F… it lasted 2M . he revealed to me he had a much younger girl fetish and being into porn where women portrayed themselves as juvenile. This is a huge guy 6’3” built as a fighter. He practices jujitsu 5 days a week and is always shirtless there. If he’s anywhere he’s shirtless.. which strikes me as an alarming. He walks through parks with his dog shirtless… I guess you can get away with it when you look like the hulk and have kids jumping on you (as he’s told me) long story short the gym he practices at has no idea there’s a monster walking around where children also practice on the Mat. I’m scared for the young girls. Is this something I should anonymously warn the facility at?