I'm know I did something but I can't figure out how to undo it (it's been a HOT minute since this happened. I just want to to go back to showing single books now not like this. Help would be lovely lol
So since the big cheetos became in charge, my partner (he's brown \[I'm white\] and we're gay) has been BEGGING to leave Texas. For safety/better life/yada yada. Its understable, but my family and friends are here and I don't really wanna go, but have still been working towards it for him. (he also refuses to get married within TX)
Little over a year ago, he bacame sick and hasn't really recovered, so he hasn't been able to work. So I took up a second job working 80+ hours total a week, so we could keep up with our current bills and still set aside some for the move. With him being sick and me working so much the only way I get to spending time with my friends is through vr/vrchat.
4 months ago, our AC killed over, so that was 18k to replace, his uninsured medical bills also took a chunk and now mine (herniated disc in neck) is taking a chunk as well (I'm insured tho). With the weight of my vr headset my doctor said I was no longer allowed to use it, without getting surgery to fix my disc first or it would make it worse.
I'm beyond exhausted and havent got to spend time with friends in months.
I found a light weight vrset, that my doctor said would be fine since it's like 5x lighter than my current. Things is it's like 2k to buy.
My partner told me to buy it,..but I don't think i should.
Between taking the jobs to save money to move, medical bills, housing issues etc, it feels selfish to buy the set at this point, and also like it would just kinda feed the cycle of needing to add back into saving lol.
**So what do yall think, is it selfish/stupid to buy it?**
So 2 years ago after getting covid my husband got what we now think is pots. Bouts of shortness of breath/feeling like he's having a heart attack. Docs gave him anxiety meds, blood pressure meds and told him to loose weight... He's down over 120 pounds and paces nearly non stop, to the points he's wore through his shoes.
None of it has helps, he now thinks it's tied with barometric pressure chances and allergies
He just KNOWS that leaving TX to another stay will fix him (and give him better chance of a diagnosis).
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I'm not so sure of it.
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I work 2 full time jobs just to support us at this point cause he can't work and I'm exhausted. And one is tied to the city we live in. So if we move, not only will I be leaving all my friends/family and our nice big house behind, we will also be down one stream of income. Not to mention I'll be the one doing all the moving efforts, packing, hiring, driving etc. I also have my own health issues that I will need surgery for in the future and if we move, he doesn't get better, I'll have no recovery support.
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I keep suggesting he go test it first, but he's scared to travel alone with his health issues and I have ZERO time off left after going with him to all this appointments and his many trips to the ER
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I wanted to be very clear that I love him and I want him to feel better, I just think this is a major life changing risk that can't be undone if It doesn't help (or worse, exaserbates it)
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TL:DR. Would moving to a new are help pots barometric pressure issues?