My husband the father of my 4 children is the most selfish person I have ever known. He was my first everything and after 30 years I’m done. I don’t know how to go about divorcing him, If I can pay the mortgage on my own, will the kids resent me in the long run? This has been a loveless, under-appreciated, sexless, unfulfilled, unhappy relationship and I’m done. At 53 years old I should be having the time of our lives, (he’s 65) instead I’m miserable and lonely. The only bright spots are my children.