u/Calm-Animal5498

Tfmr at 30 weeks & while I’ve been to work in person infrequently, I’m starting to go in normally (after 2 months).

Everyone obviously knew I was pregnant. I’m fine with talking with people but I’m assuming that they think I’m going to get pregnant again in the near future which is not my plan. There maybe some bias because of this on the work I get as well from my seniors. I’m looking to see how others dealt with this. Were you upfront in case you were not even thinking of trying or something else? One of my coworker is extremely loud & I’m sure she’s floating this idea around that I’ll be going on maternity leave but I’m not even thinking about it !

I’m 3 months out since my TFMR at 31 weeks. It was my first pregnancy. I’ve always wanted kids since being a teen (not one but like many) & now after tfmr I’m seeing all babies as trauma, & really thinking to having no more. My mind has started to think they are boring and a pain to deal with. I had my baby & love him & miss him every dam day but I’m so done. I’m kind of shocked to see my mind change like this. I know most people think of getting pregnant etc but is there any one in the same boat as me? Do these thoughts change?

Did you see the Oklahoma story where a mother forced her 11 year old daughter to give birth without medical care after her husband raped her?

I’ve been crying for that poor 11 yr old child like no one deserves such journeys.

How did these “parents” get to have a child, leave alone a healthy child? Wtf did we do to be part of this community while the world gets healthy children include rapists and drug addicts and what not?

I’m just so angry & there is just no logic to anything that happens.

I’m getting recommendations from Stanford MIGS/ MFM to leave the fibroids as is & if they do robotic myomectomy, it’s a risk to healthy pregnancy and will always be a C section. I might not have too many symptoms ( I have tiredness , pelvic pressure/ pain, urine discomfort, extremely enlarged uterus) but I’m reading from all of you that it only gets worse. I want to conceive too atleast within a year.

Any Bay Area (California) recommendations for surgeons? I’m getting my pelvic MRI report this week.

The uterine myometrium left body approximately 4-6 cm fibroid. Proximal anterior body subserosal bilobed or coalescent fibroid region approximately 7 to 8 cm.

It’s been 1.5 month since my tfmr at 30 weeks. All my close friends have babies. I’ve met few of them without their babies but I know at some point they would want to include their kids. Yesterday, I randomly told my friend next time, we’ll meet as a larger group with the babies ( don’t know why I said this) and then she showed me the picture of her baby who turned 6 months . I was fine when I saw it and a taken a back a little but now I’m getting weird flashbacks of that picture and what should have also been me.

Question is when did you start seeing friends with babies? I’m really confused on how I’ll feel/ react after meeting them . Sometimes I think I’ll just be fine since I’ve seen all of these babies before . But other then the usual grief, I’m getting daily nightmares where I keep crying & get up with a heavy chest so I guess I don’t want to have more emotional stress (in case that will happen) . Or can meeting these babies make it better?

One month post tfmr of my first pregnancy (at 30 weeks) & I really struggle why I’m living. It’s like every minute is a torture. I have no purpose in life & neither do I want one. My husband has carried on very well with his work & can watch TV 24 hours & doesn’t really do anything about this. Social life is screwed as I have no interest to meet & even if I meet people, I would have only my tfmr story to share because nothing else matters. What is this terrible life? How do you make sense of it if you have no living kids?

I had a still birth a month ago & my stress levels has been daily over 10 hours atleast . I have been sleeping around 8 hours daily & physically I’ve been fine . Is all the stress just due to mental breakdowns? It’s not like I’m having breakdowns all my waking hours so I’m just wondering if this is a bigger thing

I’m 31 and recently discovered I have multiple fibroids (four) during my first pregnancy. The pregnancy resulted in loss (at 31 weeks) due to completely other reasons. The fibroids gave me severe pain for 2 weeks and several on and off pains during that pregnancy where the fibroids grew as well.

I’ve been trying to find information in this group but was unable. My Obgyn and MFM said there’s risk in removing my fibroids if I want to try to get pregnant again. It might not be possible to carry to full term or issues with baby as the uterus gets scarred etc. They’ve recommended against removing them. I want to ttc in 3-6 months.

In day to day, the fibroids did make me more fatigued, interrupted cardio workouts, make me look bloated.

A 9 cm along the subserosal fibroid
A 6.4 cm predominantly subserosal fibroid
A 2.7 cm predominantly intramural leiomyoma
A 1.9 cm intramural/subserosal leiomyoma

I’m looking for advice on folks who were successful or unsuccessful with pregnancies after removing fibroids and the timeline. What process of removing fibroids did you use? Thank you!

This was my first pregnancy. This group has been so helpful that I really wanted to share my story for those it would help and I’m so sorry that we are unfortunately part of this journey of a lifetime. To all our angels up there, they know we love them to not give them a life of suffering/ disability. I gave birth to my sweet angel son yesterday. I started feeling his kicks from 18 weeks / very active baby.

My baby was diagnosed with agnesis of corpus collosum at week 28. Super late but it is what is it. We even had a beautiful baby shower at week 27. Given the range of outcomes, we decided to continue with the pregnancy if the genetic results came fine.

We did the amniocentesis, it was a quick/ easy procedure. The waiting for the results was super long, 2 weeks. At this time, I had all hopes and was always positive that it would be clean.

Results were provided on a Thursday evening and it was pathological due to a large duplication of a chromosome which is most likely going to result in lot of disabilities, not even just delays.

We had to take the most difficult decision of our lives, after consulting many genetic counselors, geneticists, pediatric neurologists.

What started was not only the most traumatic process but also physically super painful kcl injection in the morning as the baby kept moving.

I was admitted to be induced the same night. What felt like a super long process, got over quick towards the end.

I had 6 doses of miso every 4 hours. I think the sixth dose of miso started giving me some pains. No pain medication was needed. I then took IV pain medication as my cervical check was really painful. They check and I was dilated to 1 cm. We decided to put the foley balloon while the medication was on. 12 hours later we removed it & I was dilated 4 cm. Started with pitocin at the lowest dose. An hour later, I took epidural. Water broke in 4 hours or so and I was fully dilated to 10 cm. Time to push. 2 hrs of pushing and my sweet angel was out - I cried a lot during this as I absolutely hated he won’t come out alive. Didn’t need any stitches and omg birthing him made me feel so good, I finally get to hold him. I was contemplating whether I should see him as I knew in my heart that he would look perfect and I will really regret everything.

He was freaking perfect and huge , couldn’t believe he came out of my body. 16 inches tall, perfect fingers/ toes and face, also a perfect little combination of me and my partner. We spent around 11 hours with him, talked to him, took pictures, got his hair lock, I kissed him so much, I was super anxious of anyone other then my partner touching him (including my mother). I didn’t cry much in these 10 hours as firstly I literally had no energy left in me and secondly I felt he was giving me all strength from above to go through this.

Leaving him sucked and I get his visuals all the time (it’s been only a day). I was able to slowly walk soon after and dealing with the normal postpartum bleeding etc. I miss him so dam much, nothing can be worse than this, just nothing.