u/CampaignOfCalamity

I'm not looking for anyone, but honestly after my last relationship I am a little wary of men.

I find that I always attract men who project something else to get me and once they do the reality is not great and I end up very disappointed and have to leave the relationship.

I'm just curious, why do guys chase so much only to mistreat you once you are in love?

I am a very giving and understanding partner, I hate that men think "I'm not like other girls", because I don't care for presents (mostly because I'm very particular so if you're going to be spending money on me please get something I would actually like and for that you'll have to actually KNOW me and notice me).

I think I'm ordinary looking (5.5 , fair, almond eyes are my biggest asset) and low maintenance but that's because I do all the maintaining myself. I do dress in a way that makes heads turn, but I always considered myself quite ordinary, although I am surrounded by very kind people who make me feel like I'm pretty, I dont think looks are everything but they are important. I like to take care of myself, my space and I love beautifying places. I am inclined towards the arts and writing, have done well for myself professionally. I have a good set of close friends, a wonderful set of parents and generally have a lot going for me, Praise God for this blessed life.

Is the problem that men feel like they can't take care of me because I'm taken care of? I sometimes feel I trigger insecurities in men. I would really like to understand what is it that makes men go back on their promises. Am I just a bad picker? I don't believe all men are bad even though experience tells me otherwise. I often feel if I was the bad one in the relationship I would end up with a good partner. But how do you fundamentally change yourself just for the belief that you may find love? I can't lose the self love just for external validation.

Too well read, self aware and therapise to be with anyone superficial. Anyone else in this conundrum?

Duvidhas.