u/Capable_Ice7535

I (23F) moved abroad with my husband (28M) about a year ago. Before we moved, my MIL (57F) and SIL(32F) would constantly make comments about how I was definitely going to gain weight once I got here. Like… ALL the time.

They’d say things like:
“Just wait until you move there, everyone gains weight.”
“You should buy bigger clothes now.”
“You’ll see, you’re going to get chubby.”
Stuff like that.

At first I’d laugh it off and tell them I wasn’t planning on gaining weight and that I’d try to stay active and eat normally, but they acted like it was impossible not to gain weight here.

To be fair, during the first couple months after moving, I did gain around 13 lbs. New country, stress, eating out more, different routine, all of that. But eventually I started feeling uncomfortable in my body and decided to lose the weight for myself. I changed my habits slowly, started cooking more, walking more, and lost about 33 lbs total.

Part of it honestly WAS because I wanted to prove them wrong. Not gonna lie. Their comments got under my skin.

Now my MIL keeps telling me I’m “getting too skinny” and saying people will think my husband doesn’t feed me or that he’s “starving” me. Which is ridiculous because my husband has been supportive the entire time. He literally tells me he only cares that I’m healthy and happy and that I’m not developing an unhealthy obsession with weight loss or food.

For context: I’m eating normally, and I’m not underweight or anything extreme ( my weight is 132 lbs and im 5’4).

But now I’m wondering if I became petty about the whole thing because part of my motivation really was wanting to prove them wrong after months of comments about my body.

AITA?

Hi reddit, I (21F) have been married to my (28M) husband for almost a year now (we’ve been together for three years).

My husband is a good and sweet man and God i love him <3

We come from a environment where it’s very normal for couples to have kids within the first year of marriage, so there’s some pressure around us. The thing is, it’s not that I never want kids — I actually do want them someday. I love the idea of having a family with my husband.

But at the same time, I’m scared and honestly don’t feel ready yet. I still feel really young, and the idea of pregnancy and becoming a mom feels overwhelming sometimes. Part of me wants it, and another part of me feels like I need more time before taking such a huge step.

My husband hasn’t really pressured me into having kids yet, but recently I told him I don’t feel ready and cried about it, and he replied with: “If you’re not ready now, you’ll never be ready.” (Not in a rude way)

That comment has been stuck in my head ever since. Now I’m wondering if I’m being immature or selfish for wanting to wait, especially because everyone around us seems to think having kids right away is the normal thing to do.

AITAH?
Edit: I’m turning 22 next month (not that much of a difference I know)
And no the age gap is not icky for me nor for him
What he meant by what he said is that (now because we be intimate there is always a chance for us to have a baby whether we want or not)
And my husband and I agreed that we wanna wait 2 years before having a kid
But most of my nervousness comes from our environment, most of the people i know get pregnant after months
And actually for me I want to be a mother at 23 not 28+ as some of yall said in comments
And please my husband is not red flag trust me when i say that, he is the greenest flag i have ever seen, and no he is not pressuring me to have kids, On the contrary he is the one that keep tilling me that it is still early to have kids.