u/Capital_Mechanic5545

I was in a networking group full of entrepreneurs creators, CEOs, business owners, agency owners. All of them.

Most were getting decent results. I loved hearing their stories. It was inspiring and I was grateful to have access to them.

But that was the problem. It was only online. Never in person.

Those were the kind of friends I wanted ambitious, brave, smart. But to be around people like that I needed to level up first. I didn't stand a chance without making a change.

That's why I keep going even when the journey is hard and lonely.

Because every time I fall into that void I remember — if I make this happen I won't be alone anymore. I'll have people to call when I need a second perspective on a decision that's been sitting with me for days.

Time is a problem. But at least I would have someone out there for me.

And that's the reason I keep going.

Until then every decision still sits with me alone.

Are you building alone right now?

Imagine having one person who actually gets what you're building. Not a community. Not a course. Not another framework. Just someone who knows your situation and tells you the truth.

Yesterday I started talking with a solo founder. Here's what he told me:

"I'm a person who needs to build that relationship before I can fully commit to sharing my plans and ideas."

They can't open up to someone and tell them what's keeping them awake at night. Even when they want to. And honestly I don't blame them.

Because after all these online communities and accountability partners that don't actually help they start to lose trust in everyone.

I learned that myself after I offered help too early. Even when they were telling me exactly what they needed I moved too fast.

What I needed to do first was talk more. Build that trust before anything else.

Has trust ever stopped you from being fully honest about where you're actually at?

you can build anything. the process doesn't scare you. that's not the problem.

the problem is after you build it there's nobody to tell.

when something breaks at 11pm you're alone with it. when something finally works you're alone with that too.

you've tried the communities, the discord servers, the build in public threads. it helps a little. but it doesn't replace having one person who actually gets it.

not an accountability partner. not a mentor. not another stranger in a slack channel.

someone who walks the same road, understands what this actually costs, and can look you in the eye and say "here's where you're wrong."

after 18 months building alone while working a day job i know what that silence feels like.

so i'm looking for 3 solo founders who are tired of making every decision alone.

dm me if that's you.

all solo founders have one thing in common.

you can build anything. the process doesn't scare you. that's not the problem.

the problem is after you build it there's nobody to tell.

when something breaks at 11pm you're alone with it. when something finally works you're alone with that too.

you've tried the communities, the discord servers, the build in public threads. it helps a little. but it doesn't replace having one person who actually gets it.

not an accountability partner. not a mentor. not another stranger in a slack channel.

someone who walks the same road, understands what this actually costs, and can look you in the eye and say "here's where you're wrong."

after 18 months building alone while working a day job i know what that silence feels like.

so i'm looking for 3 solo founders who are tired of making every decision alone.

dm me if that's you.

the real problem isn't building.

most solo founders think their biggest problem is shipping faster or building better. two weeks of real conversations told me something completely different.

they're not lacking skills or ideas. every single one of them is good at what they do.

the problem is everything else.

they build something real and have nobody to tell. wins feel weird alone. losses they can process. wins they can't.

every decision sits with them. no one to say "yeah that was the right call." no one to push back when the thinking starts to drift.

they're carrying 100 unfinished thoughts in their head with no system and no person to hold any of it.

they've tried discord servers, build in public communities, founder groups. it helps a little. but it doesn't replace the day to day back and forth of having someone actually in it with you.

what they all want is simple.

not a tool. not a framework.

just a person who gets it.

if you're a solo founder does this hit home

the real problem isn't building.

most solo founders think their biggest problem is shipping faster or building better. two weeks of real conversations told me something completely different.

they're not lacking skills or ideas. every single one of them is good at what they do.

the problem is everything else.

they build something real and have nobody to tell. wins feel weird alone. losses they can process. wins they can't.

every decision sits with them. no one to say "yeah that was the right call." no one to push back when the thinking starts to drift.

they're carrying 100 unfinished thoughts in their head with no system and no person to hold any of it.

they've tried discord servers, build in public communities, founder groups. it helps a little. but it doesn't replace the day to day back and forth of having someone actually in it with you.

what they all want is simple.

not a tool. not a framework.

just a person who gets it.

if you're a solo founder does this hit home

the real problem isn't building.

most solo founders think their biggest problem is shipping faster or building better. two weeks of real conversations told me something completely different.

they're not lacking skills or ideas. every single one of them is good at what they do.

the problem is everything else.

they build something real and have nobody to tell. wins feel weird alone. losses they can process. wins they can't.

every decision sits with them. no one to say "yeah that was the right call." no one to push back when the thinking starts to drift.

they're carrying 100 unfinished thoughts in their head with no system and no person to hold any of it.

they've tried discord servers, build in public communities, founder groups. it helps a little. but it doesn't replace the day to day back and forth of having someone actually in it with you.

what they all want is simple.

not a tool. not a framework.

just a person who gets it.

if you're a solo founder does this hit home

That's the hardest lesson I learned in one year of entrepreneurship.

Before you build anything you need to validate the idea. It doesn't matter what you're trying to create what matters is whether there's a market for it. Are there real people struggling with this problem? What exactly is their pain and how are you going to solve it?

Most people skip this part and go straight to building. I get it building feels more exciting.

But without validation all you're doing is wasting time, energy and money on something nobody asked for.

Here's what you actually need to do first.

Talk to real people in your target audience. Not for compliments. Not for "sounds good, I'd try it.

you need to dig deep into their pain. What is it exactly? How bad is it? What have they already tried?

Only after you know exactly what your audience needs do you start building.

The boring truth is that talking to users is the hard part. Building becomes easier once you have that clear picture in your head of what you're solving and for who.

Have you started validating your idea or did you skip straight to building because it sounds more fun?

Let me know in the comments.

the internet has made it easy to build a business, but the reality is the opposite.

two days ago i was overwhelmed.

in my head i had 100 things.
should i create a reddit bot

what about helping coaches with ai
no no better to grow my substack first

should i start making instagram videos again
no reddit is fine to find clients

you know what, better to find a mentor
how do i promote my newsletter idea validation
or should i create the validation tool first

is it better to help my audience but they don’t seem to have a budget

should i find a new audience
nobody tells you the hardest part isn’t building.

it’s figuring out what to build while everything pulls you in a different direction.

if you’re in the same place what makes you keep going when everything feels overwhelming?

something you’d build. something that could change things.

but you sit on it for months.
not because you’re lazy.

because you don’t know if anyone else actually needs it.

this is the real trap nobody talks about.
not the fear of failure.

the fear of spending everything time, money, energy on something that turns out to only matter to you.

so you wait. you research. you overthink.
and the idea just sits there.
i’ve been there.

here’s what i’ve learned after 18 months of building in public:

the only way to know if an idea is worth it is to talk to real people before you touch it.
not “what do you think of this idea?”that’s useless.

but “how are you currently dealing with this problem? what have you tried?
if they’ve already tried to fix it themselves that problem is real.

if they shrug move on.
5 honest conversations will tell you more than 6 months of building ever could.

i’m in the middle of figuring this out myself right now.
and i want to know where you’re at.

drop a comment or reply to this:
what’s the idea you’ve been sitting on — and what’s actually stopping you from moving on it?

what is one problem that makes you frustrated
literally something that is stressing you out

I've been on Reddit for 4 days.

In that time, I've learned something:

There are clients here. Real people with real problems I can solve.

But here's the cost:
- 1+ hour/day just posting
- Another hour researching where to post
- Another hour engaging to build credibility
- Another hour managing responses

4 hours/day minimum.

That's 20 hours/week I DON'T have.

So I'm stuck:

Option A: Post on Reddit consistently, get clients, abandon my other work
Option B: Focus on my real job, ignore Reddit, miss the opportunities

I can't do both.

Most people in my situation just pick Option B.

They give up on Reddit because the time cost is too high.

But what if there was a third option?

What if you could:
- Post automatically (30 min setup)
- Engage while you sleep
- Find your target audience without research
- Get clients without the 20 hours/week

Just connect your Reddit account and let it run.

I'm building this.

Not sure if anyone else has this problem, but I do.

If you're in the same boat, reply below or DM me.

Just testing if this is real or if I'm the only one frustrated.

a year and a half ago i knew nothing.

no skills. no direction. no idea who i could help.

i started editing luxury motivational videos on tiktok.

one month in, 400 followers. then the algorithm killed me

every video restricted, no matter what i tried.

after a few more weeks i quit.

but i couldn’t stop thinking about why i started in the first place.

you’re weak in front of a man who has money and position.

no matter what you say, you just can’t break him.

that’s what i realized sitting at my job.

and that’s why i started building on the side so i’d never have to

explain myself to someone just because they own the place.

a year and a half later, i finally have clarity. i help men like me

ambitious, stuck in a job they don’t give a shit about.

i write what i’m learning. the mistakes i’m making. what’s

working, what isn’t.

i write on substack. tested others.

this one lets me think clearly and write without the noise.

i’m not where i want to be. but i’m not where i was either.

any questions you have drop about starting out.drop it in comments

Being this age and thinking "what if I fail" that must mean something is seriously wrong with this guy

That's me. The worst student in school because I just wasn't meant to be part of that system.

So instead I started working at 14. And later at 20 I realized that working for someone else for the rest of my life wasn't something I was willing to accept.

That's why I started learning how to build a business on the side while working a full time job.

No direction. No skills. No help.

But gradually I started working and figuring things out.

For a year I didn't know what I was doing. And that fear of failing it was with me every single day.

I kept thinking what if this doesn't work out? What should I do next?

Honestly I kept going because I believed I would start to figure it out eventually.

In that one year alone I learned two skills writing and AI. I figured out my target audience ambitious men just like me who want to build something and quit their job.

I learned to stay consistent even without results. I learned the discipline to put in the work even when it was hard.

Even as I started to get a little better that fear never fully left. Because part of my brain is always on alert about something that has a 50/50 chance of working out.

But I'm still on track. Still showing up.

Every day is a new challenge and every day I do my best to work on it.

And in doing that the fear of failing slowly drops.

do you have that fear of failing?

it’s two weeks that i started my newsletter in beehiiv
and i don’t know a thing how it works

but i will figure it out

i intend to share how i am building a business from
scratch while working in a full time job

if you have any tip how to promote it more
i would appreciate it

a year and a half ago i knew nothing.

no skills. no direction. no idea who i could help.

i started editing luxury motivational videos on tiktok.

one month in, 400 followers. then the algorithm killed me

every video restricted, no matter what i tried.

after a few more weeks i quit.

but i couldn’t stop thinking about why i started in the first place.

you’re weak in front of a man who has money and position.

no matter what you say, you just can’t break him.

that’s what i realized sitting at my job.

and that’s why i started building on the side so i’d never have to

explain myself to someone just because they own the place.

a year and a half later, i finally have clarity. i help men like me

ambitious, stuck in a job they don’t give a shit about.

i write what i’m learning. the mistakes i’m making. what’s

working, what isn’t.

i write on substack. tested others.

this one lets me think clearly and write without the noise.

i’m not where i want to be. but i’m not where i was either.

any questions you have drop about starting out.drop it in comments

after a days spent on on reddit here i am seeing constantly people who are asking the same thing like

i'm depressed

i'm lonely

i'm stuck

i lack confidence

i don't know which career to follow

i don't know what i am good at

i've been bullied

and list goes and on

and now if you're a person who's having one of this problems just tell excatly what you're struggling with and i will do my best to help you

i have struggled myself with these some i have solved some i am working on them

let's say you want to start a business but also don't want to spent time building and wasting all the time and effort into something that no one may want

how do you validate if the idea is worth it or not?

let's say you want to start a business but also don't want to spent time building and wasting all the time and effort into something that no one may want

how do you validate if the idea is worth it or not?