u/CarbonParrot

Shop 1 (new shop to me). Multinational corporation. Brand new beautiful huge facility. Make a few versions of the same product. Not big parts so short cycle times I'm imagining. Since I'm new to CNC lathes I'd be starting doing one op. Then eventually run a cell with 2 lathes and a mill. Sounds hectic, everyone stands. Chance to learn though.

Shop 2 (current shop). Countered shop ones offer. Offering to move me to lathe department. All mazak. Bigger and more varied parts. Probably more complicated geometry and more varied metals for sure. Same pay almost as good pro as shop one. Offer of a merit raise in a few months.

I know they say don't stay at a shop for a counter offer but I've seen people do it here with repercussions. Current shop culture is really nice. Facility isn't too bad.

I was trying to make a move because I got stuck in deep hole boring and hated it. Honestly feels like a coin flip. Commute is the same, both first shift.

Any advice appreciated I told everyone I would have a decision made on Tuesday.

Long story short I got a job offer at a new shop. Facility is not as nice but I will get the chance to learn dual spindle and maybe swiss. Commute is less than a mile but shop is more of a mom and pop place. Pay is the same as I'm making right now. Another big consideration is it's first shift. I'm on second now and have been hating it.

So it's kind of a lateral move but I'm not growing at my shop. I think it's a no brainer to give it a try but leave the door open to return on good terms with my current employer.

Edit I was able to negotiate a little more pay and PTO. Done deal.

On Saturday, after what I thought was a very nice date. She said we aren't compatible and that's fair because we are not. This is the first avoidant I've ever been with and it was wild.

She talked so much about her emotionally intelligence work, wanting to date intentionally for something serious.

I never got affection or compliments beyond surface level. She gave me just enough false emotional intimacy to keep me interested. She only wanted to meet up every few weeks.

She seems such a contradiction. Wanted warmth and comfort and intimacy, but couldn't really give or receive it. She turned me from a secure man into an anxious one.

We were only dating for a few months and the first month was amazing but I noticed I was becoming more anxious and unhappy. I'd say things the that effect and she would give me just enough to soothe me for a day.

Anyway I'm ranting. I wish I knew about avoidant earlier. I was playing a game I couldn't win.