AITAH for not maintaining a friendship.
Long story shorter. This girl(f23) who I (f23) was friends with for years was going to be the maid of honor to my wedding. I will call her “Destiny” Helped me pick out my wedding dress and was looking for her maid of honor dress the same day even though I made an appointment for later on. When the employees “bagged” my dress up my husband came inside to pay for it. My husband’s native language is Spanish and so is Destiny’s. Destiny told my husband “come here let me show you something. you should get me this dress. It’s only $300.” In Spanish. My husband said “I’m not buying shit for you.” In English. And came back to me while I was waiting at the register. Fast forward I got a dress for my bridesmaid and for the maid of honor. It in fact was not $300. Destiny got the dress and was mad because it wasn’t the dress she picked and practically begged to come to my house to go swimming that day. We went swimming and she took the dress. The very next day—a week before my wedding she tells me “I have to work. I won’t be able to make it” we get into an argument because we discussed it for over a month just to make sure she can make it. She was skipping jobs. (Working two weeks at one, a few days at the next then quitting / getting fired etc…) I told her “ you told me you could make it. This is the best day of my life where I will never get this day back and you’re now telling me you have to work. It’s ridiculous. I’m not mad that you have to work but I’m very upset and disappointed you can’t keep a job” she says “well I don’t know what to tell you.. maybe you can change your wedding to a different day or something.” I tell her “just bring me my dress back” she talks about my weight (how I won’t be able to fit it even though we wear the same size.) and then brings up my deceased mom sister and everyone else that’s passed on. She brought me my dress technically tossing it to me and it took everything in me to not fight that day. I blocked her that same day. I found out she didn’t have to work.. she went on vacation the same exact day my wedding was that her mom paid for. Now a year later she apologizes and wants to reconnect. Told me “I didn’t think I could go to your wedding because Anjelah said she didn’t have the money to give me gas or for the hotel. We were just going to show up but we didnt. We just went to Austin Texas.” It doesn’t seem she changed AT ALL. Just from her personality. I tell her “I don’t know if we will ever be friends again but I don’t have it in my heart to hate. I have God on my side and I forgive you. I don’t know if we will ever hang out but my husband and I don’t want you around our house. “ she agrees but still wants to hang out at places, meet ups, talk about drama I couldn’t care less about and more. I nanny/babysit for a living and have been for years as I’m licensed with the state of Texas. She called me when I was making the kids lunch so I just sent a little voicemail message saying “I’m babysitting.” And she responds with this. I honestly don’t want her in my circle as she ruined that and I couldn’t care less if we talked tomorrow or not. I’m loving the married life with my husband and focusing on us and God. My SIL told me “it seemed she was trying to get into y’all’s relationship and I have never even met her” after I told my sister in law EVERYTHING. And she’s not the only one who said that. Anyways AITAH for not even responding or keeping this “thing” going? What are y’all’s thoughts?