r/pregnancyproblems

I never had a big wish for a child. For many years, it was even clear I didn't want children at all. It changed with my husband, who always had a strong wish to have a child. I looked at my rejection of that idea and opened up to it. Short version: shitty childhood and ongoing trouble in family made me afraid of having a family myself.

The first 4 months were emotionally horrific. Though I got off the hook with some of the classic symptoms like nausea, it was emotionally a deep dark pit, stressful and fearful.

It just got better towards the end of month 4. I had a few nice weeks, like 3 weeks or so, when the ultrasound revealed that our baby is growing rather slow. In the beginning that just meant "checkup soon again", but of course we were afraid. Every time I felt like I could handle the current situation a bit better something happened that caused more insecurity, more fears - more checkups, having to go to the hospital for checkups instead of my regular doc (which I really didn't want), decreasing results on how well the baby is nourrished, hopes being smashed (like going to the birth house)...

By now (week 33) I have to go twice per week and check, and every single time I don't know if I can come home again or if I have to stay at the hospital and they'd have to get her. We hoped to have a little relaxed time before birth, after an otherwise challenging time (we moved recently), but relaxation seems so far away and we can't even plan a weekend in some beautiful spot to get our thoughts off all this.

Additionally, a natural birth will not be possible. And the c section scares the shit out of me, reminding me too much of the abuse I've experienced as a child.

This whole pregnancy has been a huge emotional burden and now seems to end in what is my personal worst case for giving birth.

And I'm afraid this might affect my relationship to our child. I occasionally have the thought "why did I say yes to this". I don't want this type of thinking. I don't want to feel distance to our child, or even "blame" her, she's the last person who deserves that. But there is simply noone to be blamed and I think all the anger, frustration and tension that built up because the whole pregnancy has been and is still so difficult and so full of fears are trying to get out. Only, where should they go, if you can't blame anyone?

Hello,

I just got a positive pregnancy test one week and one day ago. My app currently says I’m 5 weeks 4 days pregnant. I have had brown discharge and even some blood only when wiping. I got my hCG test done early this week. The first test done at 5 weeks was 113, the next one done 48 hours later was 251. My provider wants me to go back in for another test in a week. They aren’t really giving me any answers or telling me anything, so I’m stressed and spiraling looking up what these symptoms can be and of course it says ectopic pregnancy or miscarriage. Should I be preparing for the worst? I’ve also read about some sort of hematoma that could be the cause as well, I went to stay positive but getting my hopes up with the possibility of this pregnancy leading to a miscarriage is scaring me. Please help!

So have been through one and my hcg at the moment is 7hcg I really just want to have a few drinks has anyone done this it’s been a crap week I didn’t need surgery or medication was all natural

I recently started casually seeing a young man who lied to me about his age thinking I’d reject him if he told the truth. He was also dishonest about his sexual experience and I finally learned that he has only had sex once before me.

That being said, bc of his lack of experience and dishonesty, I was less cautious then I would’ve known to be and in June 26 (my exact ovulation day), he ejaculated in the condom, didn’t tell me and kept going. When I eventually realized he was going soft I asked him if he came. He said yes but that he could still keep going!

I told him that you CANNOT keep going after ejaculating in a condom bc it becomes useless! The conDom was stuck inside of me when he pulled out.

I know my body well and have been pregnant many times before. I’m certain I’m experiencing early pregnancy symptoms and quite excited tbh!

Here’s the dilemma: I don’t want an abortion, I want to keep the pregnancy and baby but I know he is young and I feel it would be unfair to him to keep it. Its also unfair for me to have to terminate the pregnancy.

I would not ask that he be an active father at all or request financial support btw.

TLDR; I’m pregnant by my casual and much younger lover and want to keep the pregnancy but I’m dealing with feeling guilty because he is so young. Any advice?

Disclaimer- I am a massive over thinker! Just seeking advice or if anyone has experienced something similar.

I had a miscarriage last Sunday (21st June) declared by the doctor who said my cervix was open.
I started brown spotting the Friday prior, then the Saturday it became pink/ small amounts of fresh blood. By that Sunday the cramps were bad and I bled a lot. I had a scan and they could not see anything.
My HCG the morning of that Sunday was 650, they then dropped to 500 that evening, then the 25th of June they were at 130.
On the Monday (22nd June) I passed what I thought was either the sac or the decidual cast ? It was pretty big.
I’m currently not bleeding anymore (1st of July)
and haven’t bled in 3/4 days now, cramps have massively eased off, still the odd dull ache/twinge.
But I have experienced nausea almost every evening and this evening (1st of July) has been pretty intense. No fever, just very intense nausea to the point of almost certain I was going to vomit. Other than the nausea all seems okay (physically) but this nausea is really getting to me. Is this normal?

Anyone have really annoying and bad nausea during week 8-9? Starting week 9 and just so nauseas and tired. Anything help? I’ve taken by OBs recommended b6/unisom 2 x. But wondering what helps during the day? And when will it stop….. thanks

I’m 7 weeks pregnant and my doctor found a Subchorionic bleed (hematoma) which she is not concerned for in the slightest. I had two miscarriages prior to this pregnancy so naturally i am worried.

I was wondering if any mamas on here have this currently or maybe had this in a previous pregnancy? If so, can you please share your experience! Thank you.

Has anyone been through something like this ? i need advice.

My last period was May 13th. Next period due was June 10th. The night of June 8th i had some spotting, and then again on the morning of June 9th.

I took a regular line test on June 10th and got a faint positive. then took a digital and it said pregnant.
I took another digital on the 11th that said pregnant. and then another line test on June 19th that had a much darker positive line.

i scheduled my first OB appointment for June 30th.

On June 27th (yesterday) i woke up and felt like i needed to use the bathroom. I had been struggling with some constipation. I went to the bathroom and my stool was kind of hard. I noticed some blood when i wiped and assumed it was from the bowel movement. An hour later i went to pee and noticed some spotting when i wiped. i read that constipation and hard stools can hit the cervix coming through and since the cervix are so sensitive - it can irritate them and cause bleeding so i just planned to keep an eye through the day.

maybe an hour later - i peed again and the toilet paper was more covered in blood. so we went to the ER. i wasn’t experiencing any pain other than some very very mild discomfort in the left side that i had been having for a week or so. my labs all came back fine - but my HCG was only 226. they did an ultrasound and couldn’t find a pregnancy. they are unsure if i’m just earlier than i thought, or it’s ectopic.

I am having repeat labs done tomorrow so see what my HCG does. I started experiencing cramps after the ultrasound and they’ve not gotten better. I wouldn’t say they are HORRIBLE , but definitely painful like really bad period cramps.

I guess what i’m asking is - have you experienced something like this and what was your outcome ?

i tried to make sure i included all details so if you have a question about something , im happy to answer.

TW: BLOOD

For context I am 33F, first time being pregnant. I found out last week on a whim which was very exciting for my husband and I. I'm approx 4-5 weeks pregnant. Everything was fine until Wednesday at midnight. I woke up and was bleeding brown blood. Nothing major, mostly when I wipe and at most there may be a little streak of blood on my underwear. I did have back pain and cramps at the time so I rushed myself to the ER. They took blood and did an ultrasound and y HCG levels were at 645 and they couldn't see anything on the ultrasound as they said it was still too early. It has been 2 days and the bleeding is still going. It has not increased but switches from brown to red to brown to red every so often. It is typically more brown than red. I'm absolutely terrified. I went to do another blood test to check if my HCG levels were rising or falling and I have another ultrasound scheduled for next week.

# Ok so I'm currently 6 weeks and 3 days pregnant but out of nowhere yesterday i woke up with no symptoms such as no sore boobs no craving or fatigue which i was having heavily so i was like maybe today is the only day i won't have them 😅 but today i woke up the same no symptoms so i did a pregnancy test to check the levels and the test came out so light should i be worried its a missed miscarriage?

Update : i did go to the hospital today they did a blood draw and an ultrasound the triage lady was rude since the beginning but she told me the results and she said i had blood around the sac so its now a threatened miscarriage 😫 but she didn't even tell me if the baby had a heart beat nor did she tell me my hcg levels she just told me to come back in 2 days and to follow up with my obgyn doctor which i still don't have one since my insurance barely got approved yesterday so hope everything goes well

So this is my first pregnancy, I don’t know what to do, my first appointment is on the 21st of July but I have really bad morning sickness, everything I eat just comes right after. I can barely sleep…

Should I go to the hospital? Or is this normal? What should I do? Do nausea pills good?

Hi everyone, I had an early pregancy scan lastnight, it has been predicted I am 6W4D. The first day of my last period was the 7th May. My period was 9 days long, I have PCOS/PMOS and have irregular periods. I had a transvaginal scan and it was hard to locate my gestational sac, eventually it was found, it was 6.4mm and empty. I have a follow up scan booked in for the 6th July. The midwife said it could be too early to see or that my dates could be earlier than expected. I took a pregnancy test on the 1st June and that's when I had my first very faint positive. I am trying to work out the timeframe but it seems to me like I would be 6/7 weeks. Has anyone experienced this and still had a healthy pregnancy? I don't know if this is a common thing that can happen to someone with PCOS/PMOS? I am so scared this is going to be a missed miscarriage 💔😔

Hi everyone,

I'm in my late 20s and have been married for a little over 1.5 years.

My husband and I were planning to start trying for a baby around November this year, but unexpectedly I became pregnant last month, about 4–5 months earlier than we had planned. I'm currently around 5 weeks pregnant.

We haven't had our first doctor's appointment yet, but I've had pregnancy symptoms for several weeks and my home pregnancy test was positive.

The reason I'm worried is that I've always been very petite and underweight. My BMI is around 16, and I've struggled to gain weight my entire life despite eating well. I seem to have a very high metabolism and burn calories quickly... I've tried weight gain diets... exercises...overeating for months...and could barely gain a kg or two in a span of two months.

I also tend to have low iron, Hb and ferritin levels from a recent CBC test done, which often leaves me feeling tired and exhausted. In fact, one of the reasons we wanted to wait until November was so I could spend a few months focusing on gaining weight and improving my overall health before getting pregnant.

A lot of relatives have told me not to worry because women usually gain weight during pregnancy anyway, which gives me some hope. But my husband and I are still concerned about both my health and the baby's health since I'm starting this pregnancy at a low weight.

I'm wondering if anyone here was underweight when they became pregnant. Did you manage to gain enough weight during pregnancy? Did being underweight or having low iron/ferritin cause any complications or extra challenges during pregnancy?

I know every pregnancy is different, and we'll definitely be discussing all of this with a doctor soon. Since it's still very early, part of me is wondering whether it's better to continue the pregnancy or whether we should have focused on improving my health first before having a baby.

I'm feeling quite anxious and would really appreciate hearing from anyone who has been in a similar situation.

Any pregnant ladies out there dealing with unsteadiness issues? Almost like a floaty feeling? I’m also squinting a lot and have noticed pressure in my forehead. I’ve had it for 10 weeks. I’m sensitive to bright lights.

My partner and I had sex and after I was bleeding a little bit and then the next day I started bleeding more. It went from light to heavy, and I was bleeding for 5 days. Today the bleeding has gone down tremendously thank God but I did pass some clots along the way ! The day that blood started to come down heavier, my breast tenderness disappeared and I was so sad. But what’s so crazy as well is that this happened on what would have been the week of a missed period !! This bleeding behaved exactly like my period would !! I had cramping as well but I didn’t bleed so bad to the point where I had to go thru pads, the blood would get in the toilet, but only spotting here or there on the pad… when I would pee the blood would go in the toilet… if I wanted to I could have had the same pad on for the whole day (but of course I didn’t due to sanitary reasons), and the cramps were like period cramps not even that bad.
In between this time I went to the Urgent Care and my HCG level was at 481 and they did not see anything bad in the ultrasound, at that time I was around 5 W 4 D (?) and they couldn’t see the baby only “the sack” I’m assuming because you can’t see babies at that time. He looked for everything bad and didn’t find it thank God. I have not had any issues as of today.. I have been feeling tugging and some pulling and a little cramping… other than that I hope everything is okay. My mommy brain is still a little present… and my fatigue… I’m just hoping this baby is making it and I am trying to see if anyone had experienced the same thing as me.
Lastly, I took a pregnancy test today and the line was faint but it was there and you could see it. It’s not as dark as the last test that I took, but it’s still present, however my first pregnancy test was faint just like the one I just took today.

Any thoughts ? I have an apt with an OB on the 1st.