Just confused by everything
So we are new, I have 2 yo twins diagnosed level 1… I guess… we had a really weird eval appt. The child psychiatrist only talked to my kids for like 5 mins. We are actually get re-evaluated not cause im denying it but I left with more questions than answers. Their speech therapist sees autism in them as well. Where I’m confused - I don’t know what to do about school, I already had them signed up for a summer preschool that now I’m getting nervous about sending them to it… worried they will struggle. they actually do really really well with other kids. They like being involved, make great eye contact and don’t have big tantrums (just kinda expected tantrums when tired or just being a 2 yo) my daughter has a verbal stem. Sometimes it’s very loud but comes and goes. Both kids are speech delayed but understand a good amount and can follow directions. Gestal language processors but they understand quite a bit of what they say. They are very loving and very joyful. Really it’s just a lot of subtle but also obvious communication differences also the “lack of richness” in their interactions (verbiage from OT) I’m so confused on what to do. I have no help and no one really to talk to. So parents in a similar situation, what did you do about school?? What were the struggles??
And Also has anyone been diagnosed as an adult after getting their kids evaluated?? The more I read the more it makes sense to me. Like putting on a pair of glasses. But it’s also confusing. I didn’t have support growing up but I did have struggles with learning, couldnt read until 3rd grade, still struggle with reading, getting bullied, masking traits, kinda a lot of stims, intense social burnout, I was hyper verbal from a very young age though. Never did well in school but I research constantly and honestly am more successful than a lot of people I know with their masters. I also was diagnosed with OCD a few years ago… after the twins were born. I also am POSITIVE my dad was undiagnosed autism… more classically equivalent to “Asperger” highly intelligent guy. But I still really love being social.. so did my dad but definitely a very awkward guy. I also have a nephew who is level 2 but I don’t think many people would be able to tell. There is a lot of ND on my paternal side frankly. My head feels so busy and I’m so overwhelmed by the lack of control and unpredictable outcome of it all! I’m sorry I am NOT asking am I autistic? Despite imposter syndrome this does feel like it fits. What I am asking I guess is has anyone else gone through this identity crisis or awaking after getting their kids evaluated?? Did you get diagnosed? Was there any benefit to that as an adult?
Please be kind if I offend someone with anything I said I’m sorry, I am searching for anything to help make sense of the million questions in my head. Thanks