u/CatastrophicCutie01

My husband and I have been together 16 years, since 10th grade. One of our anniversaries also falls on my birthday. Unfortunately, a family member passed away and I had to go back to my home state to be there while my husband stayed home and worked, so I missed it. We both agreed to celebrate both my birthday and our anniversary when I returned. I got back about a week ago and we haven't made official plans yet but i decided to write him a very deep and loving poem from my heart describing how we met up until our life today. I sat him down and read it to him, and then he said that it was cringey and didn’t all rhyme. It obviously hurt my feelings because it took me two hours to write and I thought it was really emotionally sentimental and meaningful. Am I overreacting?

My grandpa passed recently on my birthday, and I had to go to my home state to help my mother care for him while he was passing. Afterward, we had to clear out his house and deal with everything else. My in-laws are in my home state, but my husband didn’t come due to work.

I’ve never had a great relationship with my husband’s family. They’ve put me through so much from age 17 into my 30s, but I’ve held my tongue and been friendly for my husband’s sake with most things. There’s a lot of resentment on my side toward them, and I’m the type to say it how it is, so keeping my mouth shut when it comes to them has been really hard.

The only person who reached out to me was my MIL, which I was actually really surprised by, but it was nice of her and I appreciated it. I’ve supported this family through their family members passing, but I guess I’m hurt I don’t feel the same support back from my SIL and FIL.

Would it be worth confronting them over? I kinda feel like once I start, everything will come out — 16 years of heartache — but I feel like if I don’t, I’ll explode. I’m holding onto so much bitterness and this just adds to it.