Sometimes hinging can feel isolating.
One of my partners asks that I don’t talk to my other partners about any conflicts we have, since it would be bad hinging. All of us hang out regularly and get along well and I can’t imagine misrepresenting him in such a way that my other partners dislike him. I understand that he doesn’t want a game of telephone to happen. But not being able to talk to the people I love most when I am upset or anxious can feel very isolating. I am trying to figure out what is a healthy boundary here and what is controlling my ways of communication.