u/CelebrationPublic965

Hi! My partner (pronouns are they/them) has AUDHD and has a very messy house, we don't live together and have only been going our for about 7 months but I really want to help them out with tidying as I know they struggle with it,

They have a housemate who I'm friends with and has asked me several times to help with cleaning their house,

I also have ADHD but really enjoy cleaning especially if it's someone else's house,

Me and my partner have talked about it a bit and I think they are mostly okay with it but it's hard to tell if they are being fully truthful as they do struggle to accept help from others and when I've thought about it I think it would throw me off a bit if I got home and someone had just cleaned my house for me

I suppose there's potentially an element of shame involved cause being messy is seen as bad but for us neurodivergent people it's a very normal thing and I have seen things about how other neurodivergent/disabled people do help eachother out by doing eachothers chores,

Do you guys thinks it's a good or a bad thing? Or maybe more complicated? Idk give me your thoughts :)

Hello! I very likely will be having a transvaginal ultrasound soon at a hospital(the sort of ultrasound where they stick the scanner inside of you), I've never had one before and am very nervous about it being painful,

Has anyone had one and can share what it was like to have whilst struggling with vagnismus?

Also I have reached my dilator with 0.9inch circumference but only with the help of a vibrator, what size is the wand they use? And do you think I can cope without a vibrator?

Also the Internet says its not a damaging harmful procedure but I fear for people like us it could cause damage like tears and stuff right since things aren't as open?