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for context I have had my braces on for 1yr and 10months, specifically from July 2024 to may 2026. Before braces my orthodontist had put in those blue spaces for the molar band to fit in. I also didnt remove any of my tooth since the main issue I wanted to fix was overcrowding back then. I have been wearing my retainers consistently ever since I got them (since last sat 16may) my toothache only started after I wore my retainers. during the week of waiting for my retainers, I had no problem with chewing and experienced zero discomfort. however ever since I started wearing my retainers, whenever I chew both my upper second last toothaches and feels sore. then pain doesn’t stop till 30mins later. when I touch my gums above those two teeth, there’s discomfort as well. those were the two teeth where the molar bands were placed as well. right now, my left cheek feels sore too (idk if I’m overthinking)
anyone with similar experience?

also, I’m not really satisfied with my results mainly because I had overcrowding and didn’t remove any teeth, so now I have flared teeth on both my upper and lower teeth

for context I have had my braces on for 1yr and 10months, specifically from July 2024 to 10may. Before braces my orthodontist had put in those blue spaces for the molar band to fit in. I also didnt remove any of my tooth since the main issue I wanted to fix was overcrowding back then. I have been wearing my retainers consistently ever since I got them (since last sat 16may) my toothache only started after I wore my retainers. during the week of waiting for my retainers, I had no problem with chewing and experienced zero discomfort. however ever since I started wearing my retainers, whenever I chew both my upper second last toothaches and feels sore. then pain doesn’t stop till 30mins later. when I touch my gums above those two teeth, there’s discomfort as well. those were the two teeth where the molar bands were placed as well. right now, my left cheek feels sore too (idk if I’m overthinking)
anyone with similar experience?

also, I’m not really satisfied with my results mainly because I had overcrowding and didn’t remove any teeth, so now I have flared teeth on both my upper and lower teeth

I feel like I’m gonna be a freaking loner for the rest of my poly life and I hate how things are going rn.

before ori, I was lowkey romanticising poly life. I thought I’d be more outgoing, make new friends, have a nice little friend group in class. Then ori came and… yeah everything went opposite of what I expected. I didn’t really vibe with people in my class and cliques literally formed on day 1. I told myself okay nvm, it’s just the first day, let’s see how it goes. but day 2 was the same. I even tried to step out of my comfort zone and talk to people (which is hard for me bc I’m introverted), but the person I talked to was even more introverted and wouldn’t initiate anything 😐 so the convo just died. after ori ended, I still didn’t have a friend group or even a close friend in class. That’s when I kinda realised I might just end up being one of the loners again. first week of school was honestly so lonely. Everyone seemed to bond so fast and I wanted to join but there was literally no way. I wasn’t grouped with them for any mods and somehow ended up with all the “loners”. sec week was basically the same, except the cliques got even bigger and I was still not part of anything. I wish I could just join them, make tts together and all, but it would feel so forced and I’d just look like a desperate weirdo.

outside of class, I still have my close friend and some sec sch friends, but they all have their own new friend groups now. I don’t wanna interrupt or seem like I’m holding them back.
and for my closest friend, she has a lot of other friends, but she’s the only one I really hang out with. So it feels kinda one-sided sometimes.

idk if this even makes sense but yeah. I just feel like I’m gonna end up being a loner, which I really don’t want. I just want a group of people I genuinely vibe with. and before anyone says “just be more open”, I did try. but it felt forced and fake and I hated it. a lot of people say poly is where they found genuine friendships (even my dad), which made me romanticise it so much. but for me it’s been the complete opposite so far.

Idk. I don’t wanna be a loner but it feels like I’ve already become one.