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22F here. my partner and I have been dating since 2023. while not everything has been smooth sailing, just want your opinion for finance wise.

he earns $5-6k a month. he's a degree holder. he has a decent job and earns more than me.

i earn 3-4k a month. im a diploma holder, don't want degree because it's financially expensive and i know I'll not be able to handle the pressure so for me dip is enough. I have a small home based biz.

everytime we go out, half the time or more I end up paying for us. i also paid for half his semester in university and for fuel, for everything (he has a car)

the only time he pays is when i start to get annoyed that he hasn't been paying for anything. sometimes when I do, he says he's saving for our future (has stocks or something, I'm not clear)

so I told him off and said I didn't want to pay for stuff anymore and we should just do Dutch or pay our own things only when we go out.

he got angry and said he's been considerate about how he's spending for us so we can have a good house or whatever next time and that I'm ungrateful and since I'm the one who's running biz my income is subject to a lot more growth so I should be the one taking the financial burden when we go out now and we can work together on it in the future after we settle BTO housing or whatever....

Lol pls give me your opinions.

Edit: yeah guys i get it i will start detaching to run away HAHAHAHAHA 💀

Wake up a often with neck or shoulder pain. Side sleeper. Sleeping with a pillow and bolster now. Have been using Mongze pillow, but does not seem to help. Any recommendation of what pillow to try?

Someone to chat to.

for context I have had my braces on for 1yr and 10months, specifically from July 2024 to may 2026. Before braces my orthodontist had put in those blue spaces for the molar band to fit in. I also didnt remove any of my tooth since the main issue I wanted to fix was overcrowding back then. I have been wearing my retainers consistently ever since I got them (since last sat 16may) my toothache only started after I wore my retainers. during the week of waiting for my retainers, I had no problem with chewing and experienced zero discomfort. however ever since I started wearing my retainers, whenever I chew both my upper second last toothaches and feels sore. then pain doesn’t stop till 30mins later. when I touch my gums above those two teeth, there’s discomfort as well. those were the two teeth where the molar bands were placed as well. right now, my left cheek feels sore too (idk if I’m overthinking)
anyone with similar experience?

also, I’m not really satisfied with my results mainly because I had overcrowding and didn’t remove any teeth, so now I have flared teeth on both my upper and lower teeth

Is singapore as a society lacking adequate awareness and education about therapy? Why do the people who need therapy not believe in therapy? Are there misconceptions about therapy, hence people are not going for it?

It’s a pressure cooker society and many of us didn’t grow up in a healthy environment. So why do people remain unaware and continue carrying trauma instead of getting help?

My husband and I each own one property for own-stay (50/50), investment (80/20) - me 80%.

All deposits, mortgage, fees are all paid with the above percentage. Coincidentally, both properties are bought at the same price.

Saw the recent news about guy losing his 99-1 property despite paying more and got me thinking. If I pass on, will I still be entitled to the own-stay 50-50? And if I were to do up a will now, would I be able to have a say in that property?

I’m married with one kid if context matters. Also looking for advice on how couples with 2 properties deal with such matters.

Edit: I meant, to will the share away or to have a percentage of the proceeds once sold as it’s always in the plan to have it sold.

Edit2: Seems like I’ll not be able to get any share from the own-stay property. Is the only way to pay for ABSD and have my name in both so that I won’t lose the share?

Not comfortable with leaving assets to husband as we are both in early 30s. Would preferably want to leave to kids/siblings and husband likely may remarry too.

Okay so I've been doing a few things lately and I'm curious if anyone else is on the same wavelength.

I've started sanitising my devices after using them outside, bringing my own water bottle everywhere, using my own container for takeaway food, and carrying a paper bag when I go shopping.

Honestly it started feeling weird but now it's second nature and I can't imagine going back.

Are any of you doing the same? Or do you have other habits you've quietly picked up that you think more Singaporeans should adopt?

Drop them below, genuinely curious what the rest of you are doing.

Gf is on diet , me sad no eat buffet together. I also don't want eat alone, so me try find buffet buddy👍

My record : 1kg post cooked weighted A4 wagyu

I see people with average dual-income usually in dilemma about getting cars or condos while they already fear career instability, unforgiving job market and uncertain economy. Isn't that a no-brainier to pass on these big risk? I don't get why people will seek more debt and a high chance of bankruptcy during difficult times.

For context, I am considering joining this industry through the new Geospatial Intelligence course at NUS. Additionally, with the recent space summit and the set up of Singapore’s own space agency, this field seemed to receive more attention. The NUS professors have mentioned that the government needs a pool of local talent to help further this sector.

Do you think it's a good move, and is the future as bright as they say in terms of job prospects, stability, pay, and growth?

I would really appreciate any input, as I am having trouble making up my mind and the deadline is approaching.

Thank you 🙏

Be honest would you judge someone's resume differently if they went to SIM vs NUS?

Just curious how people actually feel about this in today's context. Does the SG Big 3 (NUS, NTU, SMU) or even the local 6 still carry that prestige when it comes to hiring and pay?

Do grads from local unis genuinely come out earning more? Or is that gap closing?

And what about private uni students some of them really fight hard to get in and graduate.Does that effort get recognised by employers, or does the stigma still exist?

Would love to hear from both sides, employers, fresh grads, and even those who've been in the workforce for a while.

Recently I was looking at job listing websites and noticed that there were a lot of contract jobs (anywhere from 2 months to 2 year contract). Either from agency or from the actual companies themselves.

The job always states, opportunity to convert to perm. But like why not just hire perm staff?

If the company is worried about the staff's competence and performance, that's what the probation period is for, isn't it?

Imma be real, all the brands I see online or get marketing for have the same boring OL looks or boring af borderline churchy looks, OR is really very teenager style (I’m 28). It’s the same 5 recycled looks that are rebranded across the different brands too, with varying levels of beige, white, black and pastels, or it’s too aunty with extremely bright colours. Don’t even get me started on how a lot of the choices here are exclusive to a very specific demographic skinny Chinese girls who weigh less than 50kgs…

The only styles and designs I seem to like are either not affordable for me (Desigual, Zimmerman etc) or is extremely cheap plastic fast fashion from online retailers like SHEIN (and this is a hit or miss because cannot try fit beforehand). Uniqlo is ok ig for basics but I’m trying to build statement pieces. Sometimes I get lucky with Love Bonito, Zara, Pull&Bear etc but honestly… it’s tough.

Im a bit crafty so I recently even got a sewing machine cuz I’m so sick of the choices and am planning to just try to make my own clothing based off designs I see online 🥲 but I still thought I would try to ask around to see if ANYONE know any brands in the $30-40 range?

Feel like social media has quietly changed. I don’t like posts anymore not influencers, not even friends and family. It’s always the same travel pics or another soulless sponsored drop.

And half the engagement is probably bought anyway. We’re all just scrolling past at this point.
Anyone else the same

Trying to get a new plan below $20 a month that can go beyond just data, anyone got any good brand lobang to share?

Just an open discussion :O

Close friend of mine expecting their first child in a couple of months, i plan to get them a nice practical gift.

Something like idk 2 cartons of wet wipes?

Which brand do yall use? And any other suggestions? Eg size? I was thinking smaller packets might be more useful for going out with, but i did love the 1 giant tub for home use during covid days