u/CertainMaximum7354

I've started noticing a strange pattern lately: in a lot of workplaces, especially in software and IT positions, there are always laid-back people who don't seem like they treat work as a major responsibility, and they spend a lot of time laughing or joking around with their coworkers. The strange thing is that these same people often do very well in interviews and get accepted without much struggle.

The part that confuses me is that these people - who aren't in positions higher than mine - still finish their tasks, and afterward they can sit and watch videos, chat, or take long breaks, and no one says anything to them. They also aren't serious in standups or planning calls; they interrupt with silly comments and laugh, while everyone else is trying to discuss deadlines and project issues.

And no, I personally don't enjoy being around them. Sometimes they act arrogantly, take up more space than necessary in the office or on chat, and honestly, they can come across as self-centered.

If I acted like that, I'm almost certain people would call me unprofessional or say that I don't care about work. I always feel like I have to work three times as hard for people to take me seriously, and even then, getting interviews or offers isn't easy for me.

But somehow, these people can leave one company and find another role in ten days as if it's nothing. It makes me wonder whether there's something I'm not seeing - maybe social skill, confidence, or some hidden advantage that lets them move so easily from place to place, even though they don't seem serious at all.

Perhaps the difference isn't always how serious someone is about their work, but rather how adept they are at presenting themselves in important situations. Interviewing is a completely different skill from performing the job itself, and I've often discovered that some people use InterviewVip to reduce stress, allow you to communicate your experience more effectively, and increase your chances of being hired.

I've been stuck in the job market for almost two years. Hardly any interviews at all. This afternoon, I finally broke down. The interview started and both the mic and camera decided to disconnect. I was already nervous because I'd never interviewed for this type of position before. Somehow I managed to pull myself together, and the first few questions went fine. I also hadn't realized the call was with the lab manager, so I didn't have a clean deck of my work ready. I found myself opening folders and explaining things on the fly, and I rambled a bit as I went.

And then, of course, my setup disconnected again right as they were asking me something. I switched to the laptop audio and asked them to repeat the question. Then the earbuds reconnected on their own, and I missed the question for the second time. I asked again, and when I heard their little "uhh, okay," I completely spiraled. The answer that came out after that was literally a jumbled mess of words.

It didn't help that I'd had a heavy conversation with someone close to me the night before, and the tech issues that kept happening pushed me beyond what I could handle. I cried after the interview. Not even because I felt like I had messed it up, but because I realized I don't deal with things going wrong the way I used to. I used to be able to stay calm. Today I couldn't.

Edited: Looking back, I don't think I froze because I didn't know the answers. Stress just completely scrambled my thoughts.

Since then I've been using interviewvip to organize my thought during interviews , It makes me get rid of the nerves and it definitely helps me stay calmer and makes me much less likely to freeze under pressure.