u/Certain_Minute3228

I’m (31M) and I was in a relationship with a woman (30F) for over 2 years. During the first 1.5 years of our relationship, I was very hesitant about her and felt that she couldn’t better me or improve me like my exes did. I told her that she comes off as incompetent by having poor taste in clothes, electronics, and furniture.

I meant all that to be taken in with good faith and for her to grow as a person. She however took it badly and started spiraling - especially when I made comments about my exes being prettier and sexier than her.

Again, I know this makes me look bad but I really was just being blunt with her. This is my first long term relationship ever. She lost 20lbs and became super attractive in my eyes and started dressing better too. I told her I love her and that we should get married. She started crying and saying how she’s underweight now, feels so bad about herself, and hates feeling less than others. It got to the point where she started drinking to cope with me. After months of being nice to her, I snapped and told her that we’re done.

She was shocked and hurt, and proceeded to tell her friends about the breakup. Soon after I’ve been getting spam texts and calls. I assumed they were from my ex. After a month, my ex reached out and said she’s been receiving these too and is tired. Idk what to believe. My ex since changed her number. Her parents told me to stay away from them and that they too have been getting harassed by texts and calls. Is there a chance she’s still interested in me? I know I hurt her, but who else would be sending me these texts?

TLDR: I was mean to my partner for a year or so and couldn’t get her to forgive me. She started drinking to cope and I dumped her after that. Since then, I think she’s been spam texting me even though she’s getting them too.! She claims her parents are getting them too.

I’m (31M) and I was in a relationship with a woman (30F) for over 2 years. During the first 1.5 years of our relationship, I was very hesitant about her and felt that she couldn’t better me or improve me like my exes did. I told her that she comes off as incompetent by having poor taste in clothes, electronics, and furniture.

I meant all that to be taken in with good faith and for her to grow as a person. She however took it badly and started spiraling - especially when I made comments about my exes being prettier and sexier than her.

Again, I know this makes me look bad but I really was just being blunt with her. This is my first long term relationship ever. She lost 20lbs and became super attractive in my eyes and started dressing better too. I told her I love her and that we should get married. She started crying and saying how she’s underweight now, feels so bad about herself, and hates feeling less than others. It got to the point where she started drinking to cope with me. After months of being nice to her, I snapped and told her that we’re done.

She was shocked and hurt, and proceeded to tell her friends about the breakup. Soon after I’ve been getting spam texts and calls. I assumed they were from my ex. After a month, my ex reached out and said she’s been receiving these too and is tired. Idk what to believe. My ex since changed her number. Her parents told me to stay away from them and that they too have been getting harassed by texts and calls. Is there a chance she’s still interested in me? I know I hurt her, but who else would be sending me these texts?

TLDR: I was mean to my partner for a year or so and couldn’t get her to forgive me. She started drinking to cope and I dumped her after that. Since then, I think she’s been spam texting me even though she’s getting them too.! She claims her parents are getting them too.