u/Ch1cken_Chaser

I am planning to open a cooking-related business in the Manitou Springs/Old Colorado City area. I am somewhat early in the process and I know this might be a long shot, but if anyone owns a business in this area I'd love to hear from you about your experience with local real estate. Or any advice about owning a business in this area (like how tourist season affects how you manage your business).
I am really excited to switch from corporate work to a business that will create local jobs and build a relationship with the community.

Thank you in advance!

In April or May, my husband (27M) and I met Em (23F) and Vi (19F), who have been dating for a little under a year, at a hangout. Over the last few months we've hung out with them occasionally, going to movies and events around town.

Unfortunately three weeks ago Em and Vi's relationship ended after some fighting and resentment that ultimately resulted in my partner and I and some mutual friends helping Vi move out of their shared apartment one night. We were told that the fights got physical so we were functioning like Vi was leaving an abusive situation (which we now know isn't entirely accurate). Em was not present during the move out.

Vi was invited to stay with another friend for a few days, and has been staying with us for almost a week. When she first stayed with us I suggested that one week be our milestone marker for a plan for her lodging moving forward and she agreed.

Vi doesn't want to go back to her home state to live with her mom. Her mom's house is overcrowded and loud and her mom is overbearing and overreacts. Her dad's house is toxic and I wouldn't advise her to go back there. Vi hasn't told her mom about the breakup.

However, here's the challenge: Vi doesn't have a car in-state. She doesn't have a job and declined work offers from friends. She is enrolled in virtual college courses. She doesn't help around the house, pay for anything, and barely speaks to us.

At first I was extremely empathetic and my priority was keeping a gay teen mentally safe and off the streets. But now that the dust has settled I'm sensing she is an irresponsible kid who needs to be back in a household with a parent. I don't feel like I know her well enough to be considered a guardian but I also feel responsible for preserving her safety.

How can I firmly but kindly insist that she needs to go home to live with her mom? Or get a job?

TL;DR: We're housing a young person who doesn't want to return to their mom's loud and overstimulating household in another state, but they are not being proactive about an alternative and I don't feel comfortable letting them stay here any more. How can I address it tactfully and effectively?

Edit for clarity: Vi hasn't overstayed her welcome yet. I am holding firm on the move out. I am just looking ahead for ways to explain that she needs to go back to her mom's house if she can't come up with an alternative.