u/Chaerin_Sistas

I've noticed that a lot of guys in high school become bold and openly approach the person they are interested in, whether it be friendly at first or indicating romantic attraction right off the bat. I've never been friends with or been close with those kinds of confident guys; In fact, the very few male acquaintances I have are all some level of nerd and different from the popular crowd.

I know gauging someone else's romantic interest in you is very subjective and can be affected by the "delulu" effect as I like to call it, where you interpret every action of another person as signaling interest towards you whether it be because you are attracted to them first or there was a prior encounter that triggered you to believe they were attracted to you.

But I'm pretty sure I'm more rational and, recently, I've been able to stop myself and reality-check, take out the delusional rose-tinted filter. So I'm confused because any guy that I'm almost entirely sure are interested in me don't approach me, not even for any neutral reason. I'm well aware of the "shy guy" demographic but I find it hard to believe that every guy who has been attracted to me were shy.
For solid evidence, I have been told that a guy likes me by a different person two different times (2 different guys; I even dated one briefly). They have both been very shy.

Sometimes I wonder if it's because of my personality that other guys have trouble approaching me? I would say I am an extremely neutral person; I am very quiet, but I'm not socially inept when I speak. I only speak when necessary but make sure to convey consideration of the other person; I'm not cold or mean in the slightest. I would say I'm pretty hard to read since I always appear to be amiable.
Maybe that's why guys don't approach me? Even when I express friendly interest to a guy who also seems attracted to me, they never come to me first or start a conversation.

To be honest, it's very confusing, because I see so many other guys being forward and bold, and I know I may appear to have a self-absorbed tone or I seem too focused on having people expressing interest in me. And I'll be honest; I kinda am. I think I deserve a great guy since I see myself as a great person, and when I like someone and make sure to send signals, I would like for them to be brave and approach me. We're almost adults now, if you're interested, man up.

NOTE: I'm not mad at anyone; it's okay to be shy, but if you have something you want, then pursue it!

I know it can get confusing when people make requests like this; People will always recommend My Derelict Favorite where the FL ends up with the guy who was 2nd ML in the ORIGINAL story (he was the 1st ML in the actual webtoon), but I want an endgame that is unexpected in the actual story that I myself am reading.

We can all sense who is the expected endgame and who is not... It becomes very clear when he gets more screen time (panel time?) and has a more complex/deeper relationship with the FL (hate to love maybe, or extreme and unmasked devotion).
I would really love to read a story where the FL is definitely headed on a trajectory towards ending up with the "typical 1st ML", giving him the screentime, relationship development, but then suddenly changing and surprising the readers by shifting towards a relationship with the (expected) 2nd ML.

I think >!True Beauty!< is a good example of this, in the first part anyways. >!Suho exudes endgame energy; he was icy towards Jugyeong and then warmed up to her, he knew about her insecurities early on, and he just had the godly face. Plus Jugyeong knew him before Seojun and started out liking him. Seojun was a pretty typical (but still enjoyable) 2nd ML. Tsundere nature but bantering, not cold, secondly introduced, a FRIEND. !<
>!Then the author surprises the reader by allowing Jugyeong to have a romantic relationship with Seojun. After a time skip, which is reasonable, since it gives realism to Jugyeong's getting over Suho and developing feelings for a new person, her long-time friend. !<

>!I think this would be a perfect example of what I want if the story ended before !<>!Jugyeong and Seojun broke up and the story went back to Suho being the love interest.!<

The only piece of media I've ever consumed where the FL actually ends up with the expected 2nd ML is >!Daytime Shooting Star!<and I've read a good number.

I don't want to be too picky about what I want because I know there are few stories where the FL truly ends up with a typical 2nd ML so give me what you got!