u/Chance-Round-6037

I (24 F) just started dating bc well I was fat all my life and lost a ton of weight this last year and this month I ripped the bandaid off. It’s been fun. Weird, awkward, a little concerning a times too, but mostly fun.

I have a couple guys who well it seems could get more serious. We all have the same intentions of dating for a long term relationship. However I’m not sure how to handle the conversation of well everything being my first. I don’t want to scare them off by basically saying “hey yeah I’ve never done anything before, sooo want to date?” But I also don’t want to lead them on if people usually have sex by a certain time and I’m just holding off until it gets more serious. I am very enthusiastic about gaining experience but just don’t know how long it would take for me to get there.

This feels so silly but truly I’m kind of in this blind and all my friends are girls who’ve been having sex since they were in highschool or college so they all have just shrugged at my problems in this field lol.

Any advice welcome - thank you

I am not sure if I should start dating? Background is I am 24 years old, F, who was fat all my life and in the last year I have lost 80-100lbs naturally (I was unemployed for a bit after graduation and started to go to them gym and now do about 5-6 miles a day).

I’ve never had a relationship, situationship, etc. I don’t center men really. I’ve always assumed they didn’t like me and so all that focus has gone towards education and work. Now I’m in this phase before grad school where I am settled in taking care of myself (income, weight, housing, etc.) and have the time to start dating.

My issue is first my inexperience and second my body. I am taller and about 150-170lbs (have had an injury last month so not sure what I am rn) but I have loose skin that I wouldn’t deem “hot”. It’s not terrible for amount I lost thanks to doing it slower and eating right but I am planning on getting surgery in February. It’s basically a mommy makeover.

I don’t know if I should wait until after that or just rip the bandaid off and start now. I like myself and personality but also am worried about how I’ll be perceived. It’s just weird going from never getting attention to now people being interested. Also feel weird since most people have had the experience in college or their teen years so I’m just more abnormal.

I do find myself ready to maybe invite someone to add to my life plus I’d like to gain sexual and relationship experience but just not sure when I’ll be ready/should do it. Wish they had instructions books for this lol.

If anyone’s been in this position or has advice let me know. Open to all suggestions and appreciate you reading :)

TL;DR: 24F, lost 80-100lbs and have zero dating or relationship experience because I was focused on school and work. I finally have the time and stability to date, but I'm insecure about my loose skin and am getting a "mommy makeover" surgery in February. Should I rip the bandaid off and start dating now, or wait until after my surgery and recovery?

I am not sure if I should start dating and wanted a man’s perspective on the situation or maybe one who has experience with a woman who has been in this position.

Background is I am 24 years old, F, who was fat all my life and in the last year I have lost 80-100lbs naturally (I was unemployed for a bit after graduation and started to go to them gym and now do about 5-6 miles a day).

I’ve never had a relationship, situationship, etc. I don’t center men really. I’ve always assumed they didn’t like me and so all that focus has gone towards education and work. Now I’m in this phase before grad school where I am settled in taking care of myself (income, weight, housing, etc.) and have the time to start dating.

My issue is first my inexperience and second my body. I am taller and about 150-170lbs (have had an injury last month so not sure what I am rn) but I have loose skin that I wouldn’t deem “hot”. It’s not terrible for amount I lost thanks to doing it slower and eating right but I am planning on getting surgery in February. It’s basically a mommy makeover.

I don’t know if I should wait until after that or just rip the bandaid off and start now. I like myself and personality but also am worried about how I’ll be perceived. It’s just weird going from never getting attention to now people being interested. Also feel weird since most people have had the experience in college or their teen years so I’m just more abnormal.

I do find myself ready to maybe invite someone to add to my life and also I’d like to gain experience with men but just not sure when I’ll be ready/should do it. Wish they had instructions books for this lol.

If anyone’s been in this position or has advice let me know. Open to all suggestions and appreciate you reading :)

TL;DR: 24F, lost 80-100lbs and have zero dating or relationship experience because I was focused on school and work. I finally have the time and stability to date, but I'm insecure about my loose skin and am getting a "mommy makeover" surgery in February. Should I rip the bandaid off and start dating now, or wait until after my surgery and recovery?