u/Chance-Tadpole-996

There’s a lot of history between me and my sp. Broke up, tried to fix things, ended it again.
Now he apparently met someone else. And we are extreme LDR. he lives in Australia and I live in Germany.

I’m trying to do the robotic affirmations for my self concept and my ex. I’m trying to act like the 3p isn’t even there and he tried to make me jealous cause thank god I have no more information other than him saying he met someone unexpectedly. And I’m trying to catch myself whenever I have any negative thoughts and try to replace them with good ones.

I have ocd do I ruminate a lot and get very anxious. I was listening to music earlier on shuffle and a love song came on, when I tried to close my eyes and imagine him and me again it felt so out of place and weird. It took me a few tries to really get into that imagination and actually be okay with it.

Do you guys have any tips on how to get rid of those weird gut feelings, negative thoughts and how to ignore the 3p?

Hey guys.
My ex and I are LDR. He lives in Australia and I in Germany.
I found out three days ago that after our 3 year relationship ended in February he met someone else in just 3 months and he told me „I was focusing on myself, I didn’t expect to meet her. Please stop texting me.“

Now I have no clue if I should just let it go or not.
And furthermore even if I affirm, a lot of the times the 3d kicks in and his message comes into my mind and I get really bad tummy aches and anxiety and yk just that heartbreak feeling.

How do you guys deal with that?

We were ldr. My ex and I broke up in October on good terms because of distance. He’s Australian and didn’t want to move to Germany anymore. (I’m from Germany)

He said he likes his life in Sydney and wants to stay close to his family. And his new work is about to start soon.

We officially stopped talking with a lot of pain and mourning in February. I kept asking if he wanted to come to Germany but he was pretty certain about it.

Now 3 months after his new work started and he met someone. He told me he was trying to focus on himself and didn’t expect to meet her (that hurt me like hell) and then asked me to please stop messaging him.

I love him a lot but I’m wondering, should I even manifest him if he wants to stay there and it’s such a complicated process to get him here? (He would have to learn German, fit in German culture and work here)
I feel conflicted, on one hand I love him and I’m also quite attached cause he was my first boyfriend and love. On the other hand I just want him to be happy and content in his life and I know we could find other people and be happy. (Which he apparently did in 3 months already..)