u/Chance_Salary_3277

On a recent work trip I (29f) stayed an extra day to spend time relaxing at the beach and just enjoying the warm weather solo. My husband was very encouraging of me taking an extra day while he took care of our daughter back home.

While at the beach I went on a walk and unexpectedly found a “clothing optional” sign and immediately texted my husband with a “lol.” He replied “I dare you!” So I found a side area, took everything off and sent him a selfie to prove the dare had been accepted.

It was just a funny moment but I found being nude at the beach was more liberating and empowering than I expected. A very chill atmosphere.

I went on a walk by the shore and a man was approaching from the opposite direction, it took a few minutes for us to cross paths. I was very aware of my (and his) nakedness as we got closer, so at that point it did feel a little awkward. When our paths crossed he stopped and said “can I ask you something?” and asked a question about restaurants or something (it sounded like made up small talk).

We chatted for probably five minutes. It became obvious he was interested - he told me I had a “remarkable body” and asked if I’d like to get dinner. I said I was married and we parted ways.

I told my husband about it later and he was bummed. He thought I shouldn’t have stopped at all, and didn’t like the guy’s body comment.

I now feel kind of stupid for this episode. Do I owe my husband an apology?

At a bridal shower for my (26f) husband’s niece in December, we were asked to submit two pieces of marriage advice on notecards to be read at the party. One “serious” one and one “fun or sexy” one.

I submitted a suggestion about reading erotica to each other during a certain “act” and it got a lot of ooohs and aahs at the party (the drinks were flowing). The ladies asked to know who it was and I raised my hand.

My sister in law texted me the next day and said that her mom (my mother in law, Carol 49f) brought up my advice three times on the car ride home, saying she was impressed and didn’t know I had it in me (I present as a kind if modest person). My sister in law loved it and thought it was hilarious that Carol reacted that way.

When texting with Carol about something unrelated the next week, I mentioned that I hoped my advice wasn’t too much! She replied right away that she thought it was amazing and loved that I was bold like that.

Since then, we’ve had a much closer relationship, being really open about all kinds of stuff including sex. She and her husband married at 19 and were each other’s first everything, so I think Carol sees me as a more seasoned woman who’s been out there a little and enjoys talking openly.

I haven’t let my husband know that his mom and I have talked about sex and relationships - I’ve kept that private. But it’s his mother - I wonder if it’s fair that he knows? Or should I put the brakes on it altogether?