u/ChannelInside2519

I am preparing my tank (20g long, planted, fully cycled, no fish currently) for shrimp and want to make sure the gh/kh are acceptable for the species (neocaridina). I have the API Master Test Kit to check all the other parameters, and everything looks good otherwise, but I’m looking for the API Gh/kh liquid test and can’t find it in stock anywhere. Does anyone have any other recommendations for what they use? I do have the strips, but I know they’re unreliable. I know for a fact my area has hard tap water, I just don’t know how hard and if it’ll be above the acceptable range for shrimp.

Thank you!

He has an avoidant attachment style (part of why we’re broken up currently but we’re still best friends and in this weird limbo of each of us being in therapy to see if we can work on our issues and have a relationship someday in the future), and when he’s going through something he doesn’t want to talk about it.

He’s very close with his parents, especially his mom, and is obviously devastated by what she’s going through.

I don’t want to overwhelm him or anything since I know he’s avoidant and add more stress onto him, so how can I best support him? What’s appropriate to say in a situation like this? All I could say was I’m sorry. But I feel helpless and like I need to do more for him, but again, don’t know if there’s anything I can do or say that would even be helpful.

Do I just completely give him space? I don’t want him to think I don’t care. Are short brief messages occasionally to let him know I’m here for him appropriate?

For anyone whose parents have gotten divorced, what was it like for you and what did you need or want during that time? Any suggestions are appreciated.