Spotted hyenas are amazing and unfairly hated animals

Spotted hyenas are amazing and unfairly hated animals

I absolutely ADORE hyenas. I love reading articles about them, watching photos and videos of them hunting, playing with each other and fighting. However, there will always be a weirdo (usually many of them) who will comment on how much they despise hyenas. From what I’ve observed this opinion is usually based on myths and misinformation.

“They are scavengers who steal food from lions!”
Incorrect, they are extremely effective predators who hunt up to 95% of their food. Yes, they can eat an already dead animal or steal others’ meal, but it’s an extremely rare occurrence and they don’t do it more often than other predators. In fact, it’s more common for lions to steal prey from hyenas than the other way around (due to lions being bigger and physically stronger)

“They are cruel, they eat their prey alive!”
Wild dogs, lions, cheetahs and other animals too sometimes. Yes, hyenas do it more often, but that’s because of their hunting strategy: they chase and exhaust their prey until it can’t fight back.
Predators don’t kill their prey before eating it out of some high moral ideals, they just do it so it won’t hurt them or escape. Plus hyenas, as written before, often get their meal stolen, so they need to eat as fast as possible.

“They’re cowardly!”
I usually read this kind of stuff under videos of clans of hyenas running away from lions, especially if it’s a scenario of “hyenas attack a lonely lion/lion cub — other lions go to defend them — hyenas back up”. First of all, lions also love to murder lonely hyenas or hyena cubs, usually by breaking the back and leaving the hyena paralyzed, that’s the way predators get rid off their competitors for food. Second, male lions are way bigger and physically stronger, of course hyenas prefer not to get mauled if it’s not necessary, that doesn’t make them cowards. However, hyenas absolutely can bravely fight lions to protect themselves, their clanmates or their cubs.

“They’re ugly!”
Well, this one is a matter of taste but I personally find them extremely cute! They have beautiful big brown eyes, huge round pointed ears and noses r/forbiddenboops dreams of.

Now why I absolutely love spotted hyenas! They’re extremely socially intelligent animals, experiments show that they solve coordinated teamwork tests better than chimpanzees. They have strong family ties, mothers nurse their cubs for long and spend a lot of time playing with them. Siblings, mothers and their daughters (sometimes sons if they choose to stay in their birth clan) keep a lifelong bond. They have a complex social hierarchy, with females almost always being on the top and their daughters right below them. And most importantly, their little cubs are absolutely adorable!

u/Chaotic_Attack — 2 days ago

I hate my racist friend and keep mistreating her

Two years ago I moved to a new city for university and I had a really hard time finding new friends. Either people are not interested in befriending me for some reason, they are always busy or they treated me like shit. The only friend I could find was that one girl who approached me.

At first she was just slightly annoying, acting inappropriate sometimes. Like saying “oh my god she can talk!” when a shy kid finally spoke up or stuff like that. I tried not to take it too serious, just told her it’s not a good thing to say and asked her not to do it anymore.

The first serious incident was when she casually admitted she was racist. Just said that she was bullied by a group of kids at school who belonged to a minority ethnicity and now she is racist against this ethnicity. The worst part was that she didn’t tell me that in private, there was another girl with us who was visibly uncomfortable about what she said and I felt so ashamed.

The second incident was about the war in Ukraine. We live in Russia so this topic is really important to me but I try to ask people about it carefully for my own safety’s sake. She answered me with something about Western media lying, Ukrainian Nazis, freeing Donbas, all of the Z-propaganda. I fucking lost it at this point.

She was always annoying but after that I began to despise her. I tried to keep my feelings to myself at first but at this point I just can’t. I always lash out at her whenever she does a slightly irritating thing, be it asking a “stupid” question or not understanding what I said to her immediately. I act really aggressive and she just lets it slide, probably because I’m her only friend too. I kind of feel bad about it, she never mistreated me personally, was always willing to help me and bullying your only friend in general seems like an asshole behavior. But at the same time should I really care about her feelings if she is a horrible person herself? Maybe I should just give up and stop caring?

Just ending this “friendship” and finding a new company doesn’t seem like an option either. I’ve been trying all this time and all my attempts fell miserably. If I just stop talking to her I will be all alone and I’m already having a hard time without anyone close to me in this new city to the point where I had to start attending therapy. I’m afraid if I lose my only “friend” I’m going to lose my mind too.

What should I even do in this situation?

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u/Chaotic_Attack — 2 months ago