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Fiction better than non-fiction for recovery?

Fiction better than non-fiction for recovery?

In this video the philosopher Joe Folley argues that reading fiction is better for personal development than self-help books. His reason is that self-help books are quite dogmatic in their approach. They tend to say, "If you do A then B is guaranteed to happen." It might work for some but not others because life isn't that straightforward.

In good fiction you have complex characters that have a better representation of what it means to be human than what you see in self-help books. These characters can cause us to reflect on our lives and maybe make changes in our lives that are more effective. Good fiction shows and doesn't tell, but self-help books tell and tell.

Could we say that same thing about books on recovering from porn? Has anyone found reading fiction more helpful than books about recovering from porn?

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u/ChapterUnwitten — 19 hours ago

Consistency score instead of streak

This might help those of you who can't get a good streak going.

The screenshot is taken from the meditation app Medito. With this app you can have a consistency score rather than a streak. I think having it, rather than counting days might be helpful for some people with quitting porn. I don't see it as cheating because you're giving yourself credit for the days you're clean. I find a consistency score focuses more on your success and having a streak causes you to dwell on your failures.

Unfortunately the apps (for quitting porn) tend to offer only day streaks so what I do is adjust the times. So if I relapse on day 5 instead of going back to day 0 I adjust it so I'm on day 4. Of course, if I look at porn 5 times during that day I go back to 0. Hopefully someone will bring out an app that gives you the option of having consistency scores like Medito does but until then we can adjust the counter.

u/ChapterUnwitten — 4 days ago

Resetting phone after downloading porn

I have this urge to reset my phone if I download too much porn. What do people make of this? Does anyone else do this?

I guess I do it because 1) I want to clean and clear myself from my porn usage 2) I hope after resetting my phone I will never download it again 3) I don't want anyone to discover the porn I downloaded because it's embarrassing.

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u/ChapterUnwitten — 6 days ago

I take one step forward and two steps back

I had another relapse. Sometimes I can go days without looking at porn, but other times that doesn't happen. Sometimes I can resist the urge and do other things. When that happens I think I will never relapse again because I've figured things out, but then I relapse. It's a mystery to me how I can resist some urges and other times I can't.

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u/ChapterUnwitten — 13 days ago