r/QuitPorn

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I haven't had an erection without pornography for decades.

I stopped watching porn for... I don't know how much time exactly, maybe 2 months ? No changes yet. I didn't jerk off either.

I'm wondering whether erections will come back or not..

Hi im giving quitting another go and finding an app to try and help, i downloaded nobeep but am wondering if people have suggestions so which should I use

Hi all, I've just gone to my first ever therapy session. I would highly recommend going if you've considered it but not gone yet. Having someone to talk to about it is such a weight of the shoulder and really helps you understand your behaviours that could be leading to the addiction! I feel much better after being able to speak it and not be the only one who knows my problem. I't doesn't make the addiction go away but it's a good start to understand why and how.

Hello everyone, I have been trying to quit viewing pornography for a few years now with little success. Yes, I have cut down the habit by a sizable amount but not completely. Yesterday I promised myself that I would try something different. I have never really joined an online community so this is all new to me, but it is a good reminder that we are all going through the same struggles, and that none of us are alone in this. Thank you for reading and I wish you all an excellent day.

Starting today I will update my journey

I'm a 20M been addicted to porn for 7-8 years as far as i remember and it messed my brain growing up doing it thru all of my teenage and developing years, managed to quit for a few months here and there but i always somehow fall back into it, I'm muslim and would say a lil religious and the guilt never really leaves me thats other than the struggle with confidence, how i view women, brain fog and all the other things that comes with porn addiction.
Since its pretty hard for a lot of us to open up to our friends or family about it to help us out i was looking to see if there is someone who is in a situation like this and willing to chat and try to go thru it together, motivating each other and celebrating every mile stone we cross

For the old guys out there in recovery, you can still stop yourself and reap the benefits. Been having the best sex of my life after ditching porn for the last month and a half. Real sex with a real woman. It's intoxicating and intensely satisfying. Porn is so fucking corrosive to how we process pleasure/dopamine. You're constantly looking for a new high, and regular sex takes a back seat. It's difficult to get aroused, especially if it's not a "porn scene" type experience.

I obviously have a big boob fetish. I had a moment a couple of months ago after watching a video of a chick on here who weighs 110lbs with tits the size of literal watermelons. Not exaggerating. The experience was like staring at a solar eclipse. It suddenly dawned on me that women endowed with what I would have considered huge tits years ago were no longer "doing it" for me. That put me in a weird place of thinking.....I'm about to get to the point where porn will be my only sexual outlet because only like 0.00001% of women on the planet are built like this.

So, I stopped cold-turkey. My reddit profile is still active, but don't go near it if you're easily triggered to relapsing. (I removed it from my Reddit app...only using it temporarily to post here; also deleted all my porn accounts from the various tube sites). But it's obvious that I had a problem. My cessation worked well because I went on a family vacation which made avoidance easier. I'm not going to lie and say things have been easy, but having a patient and understanding partner makes the shame less painful, and progress easier.

The benefits happened FAST. Regular women are attractive to me again. I get excited by smells and touches and flirting. My partner and I have been fucking like rabbits. Not always perfect experiences, but that's called REGULAR NORMAL SEX! And it's infinitely more satisfying than watching unrealistic-proportioned porn actors and beating my dick at my computer screen in the dark.

Anyway, just wanted to share to give some others hope. You CAN get back to normal. (Yeah, I know, I'm only 45 days in. So it's still early for a victory lap.)

Humorous side-note. Was watching a movie with my partner last night and there was a nude scene... She noticed I got hard watching it, which hasn't happened in YEARS. That really hit me. Watching 10 seconds of a regular (if you can call a Hollywood actress regular) woman get naked made me hard. No porn is worth it, guys. I promise.

I’m in my teens, I want to quit mast*rbation and porn. I’ve quitted watching porn for months now, and only been masturbating once a week. My progress is really good and I’m narrowing the problems little by little for realistic results.

But in my progress, I can’t seem to delete the saved pornography videos (I know, crazy and weird), I don’t watch any porn content for months now too, but I can’t seem to delete it?. I understand that all you do is click and delete but I can’t, and I don’t know the reason. I know that I’m not coming back anymore but there’s a bit of comfort knowing that it’s there.

I manage to unclogged my brain from this bs, but stumbling upon another problem. Or is this the final phase of “I’m deleting it I’m letting go and I’m not looking back”

Please, judge me. Be honest, I know some of you guys might say that “As you grow older it’ll go away” please no, I want to be cured now.

I have been struggling with porn addiction for a long time. I tried to go cold turkey many times and I always returned back to the videos.

It felt like I was stuck in a loop.

The best way to get out of it-> first of all, it worked out for me doesn't mean it would work for you too, everyone is different. It's just about sharing an experience maybe it can help someone.

What worked out for me:-

So first i noticed the root and how everything started. I watched a normal video for the first time -> soft normal videos -> rough one's -> hardcore -> roleplay story type videos. It was like:

Start-> escalation -> more escalation -> quit -> comeback and escalate ->quit-> comeback and escalate.

I tried to do something different.

This time I didn't quit, rather I de-escalated it.

Whatever rough things I watched to soft romantic and vanilla type videos.

It was hard at start but once you watch it for some time it works.

Don't go directly into vanilla if you can't but de escalate it from whatever you are wired to get aroused from.

This changes your arousal patterns and you started to love watching normal and loving videos.

From there on it's easier to let go of whatever you were watching and watch soft videos.

Now:

From Vanilla porn to Reducing the frequency.

Then,

Reduce more but don't cutoff,

And then whenever you get an urge to watch anything just watch a basic soft video.

Then try to slowly slowly leave it too.

Also my personal opinion, i think masturbating and porn are two seperate things and I'm not against masturbating. Maybe try to see if you are just releasing or getting an orgasm too ?. That's all.

I will answer all the questions

I have a real addiction. I used to do watch Porn regularly and jerk off 3 to 4 times a days.

These are a things i noticed and i hope i can help someone with these.

1. Really understand why you want to quit Porn. It is an addiction and quitting will not be easy.
   I am not going to tell you “i wantched a Video and that helped me”. But the Points this guy makes about how it effects your relationship and the long term consequences are valid. He is right and already agreed with these points. Seeing that someone has the same perspective as me helped.

https://youtu.be/qm7\_KqQxjEk

2. Delete social media. You have an addiction and are very vulnerable. Seeing these Clickbaits will get you horny. Seeing some chick in a bikini will get you absolutely horny when you are quitting porn and you definitely dont need that. Laying on bed and doomscrolling will remind you of what you used to do, before opening your Browser.
   To quit you have to figure out which actions and habits used to lead to you watching porn. And change these.

3. Don’t switch to other forms of Porn to help you quit. Like audios. Just keep in mind you want to quit all kinds of porn.

4. Jerk off but without porn. Only use your imagination. You actually have 2 addiction not one. Just don’t jerk off in bed. Jerk off in a place where jerking off is harder for you. You want to make the process of starting to jerking off harder.

5. Keep in mind you build the addiction over a long period of time. And quitting won’t be easy. I you do watch porn once it is not the end of the world. Just see what you did wrong and don’t be harsh on yourself about it. Especially if you already hate yourself for it.

These are some things I noticed that really helped me.
I hope i can help someone in the quitting journey and if you habe any tips for me as well i would be grateful

Everyone told me the same thing. Quit porn and everything goes back to normal. So I did. Months clean. No slip ups.

Then I was with someone real and nothing happened. I genuinely thought I was broken. I’d done the hard part, so why was I still stuck?

What took me too long to understand is that quitting removes the input but it doesn’t undo the conditioning. Years of a tight grip, fast pace and high stimulation had trained my body to only respond to that exact intensity. Stopping didn’t reverse it. It just paused it.

What actually started working was retraining how my body responded, dropping the intensity right down, slowing everything, and teaching my body to stay responsive to normal sensation again instead of needing the extreme version.

It came back in waves. Some weeks felt like going backwards before it improved.

Not telling anyone what to do. Just sharing because if you’ve quit and you’re still struggling, you’re not broken. Quitting is step one. The retraining is the step nobody talks about.

I honestly don’t know what to do anymore, so I decided to post here because I don’t feel comfortable talking to anyone I know in real life.
I’ve been addicted to porn for around two years, and I’ve tried so many times to quit. Every time I think I’m making progress, I end up falling back into it. People always say things like “go for a walk” or “take a cold shower when you get an urge,” and I really have tried stuff like that. The problem is that even if I distract myself for a little while, my mind is still stuck on it. It feels like once I got addicted, I dug myself into a hole that I can’t climb out of.
The worst part is what this addiction has done to my mental health. I’ve had thoughts about hurting myself, and I’ve acted on them before. I’ve also had suicidal thoughts, and that’s honestly scary to admit. I feel like this addiction is slowly ruining the way I think, and I’m terrified it’s going to affect my future, my relationships, and the person I want to become.
I know some people will probably tell me to “just stop,” but if you’ve ever dealt with an addiction, you know it isn’t that simple. I genuinely want to quit. I hate that this has become part of my life, and I don’t want to keep living like this.
I’m posting here because I don’t know who else to talk to. It’s just too personal to tell people I know, and I feel embarrassed and ashamed. If anyone has been through something similar and actually managed to recover, I’d really appreciate hearing what helped you. Right now I just feel stuck, and I don’t want this addiction to control the rest of my life.
Thanks for reading.

For men who have tried to quit porn for years:

What actually made a plan useful?

Not hype, not shame, not “just use willpower.”

I mean the practical stuff.

Was it understanding your triggers?
Having a clear evening plan?
Knowing what to do after a slip?
Replacing porn with real-life action?
Having daily structure?
Talking to someone?
Removing access?

I’m trying to understand what actually helps men follow through, not just feel motivated for a few days.

What was missing from the advice you usually got?

Me and my wife are happily married and made some really hot tapes together. She is overseas at the moment and I occasionally watch our tapes when I get sexually frustrated and furiously masturbate. It's not considered porn or addiction to be in heat for your spouse or partner is it?

I am 19 I have been watching for almost 5 years and for some context I started without porn but it evolved and the first 3 or 2 years I can’t remember I was very very addicted I had days where i will jerk it 7 times a day.

But the last 2 years I grew and had more control over myself but I have times where I hold myself for a few weeks and then once i fall I have another few days or weeks where I binge watch P and I am honest last week i watched a total of 1 day worth of porn i think in a week or two but it’s like I returned to the habit worse and then I cut porn for a while and return worse and so on, I have been on this cycle for years and the worse part is that I watch disgusting shit and I did disgusting shit.

I am lost I need help, thank you.

I was thinking about what could 🌽 possibly do to a teenagers brain because my lil Bro is struggling with it.

Can y'all help? 🙏

I have been doing to this as long as ive been able to get hard.

But i have to admit to myself its a problem now.

It really picked uo bad at 25ish when me and my now ex wife stopped having sex really...

.and then got... addiction level bad post divorce.

I started doing it at work. Anytime I was stressed...

And now... im like sex numb. I have trouble getting hard with new partners after insertion.

I am currently 48 hours no masterbation. And I think I'll update every other day, or daily.

Hi everyone,

I'd describe myself as having a severe porn addiction. I'm in my 30s now, and the longest I've ever managed to stay away from it was about three weeks after my hernia surgery.

At the time, I was determined never to go back. But I still had a few images saved on a USB stick, and I told myself, "Just this once. I'll only look at one picture." Of course, that didn't work. It quickly spiraled out of control again. Even "harmless" images were enough to trigger me, and before I knew it, I was back on the same websites searching for more. It feels like the addicted part of my brain is screaming for dopamine, and eventually I give in.

For me, it seems to be all or nothing. Keeping a few "backup" pictures or short clips just doesn't work. They always pull me back in.

Sometimes I can go several days without porn and actually feel good. But then I'll see something on social media or somewhere else online that reminds me of a specific porn video. Once that happens, it feels like I can't let it go. My brain becomes obsessed with finding that exact video, and it feels like I won't get any peace until I've watched it again.

Has anyone else experienced this? Do you ever get a specific video or image stuck in your head that you just can't stop thinking about? Are you able to ignore those urges? If so, how do you deal with them?

Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance to anyone who replies. Wishing you all the best.

Im 16M and i've been watching porn since I was around 13 but it was never a crazy thing until last year when I had a really weird relationship with a girl. She just randomly came up and talked to me and we became friends but then some weird things happened. One time she asked me to cuddle with her and due to my curiosity, I said yes. And ever since that day, I feel like thats when I really felt more sexually aroused by things and I feel like it really ruined my relationship with her and my mental health. I became a #1 porn addict and was watching it constantly. I never realized how vulnerable I was to this and it messed me up and made me beat it off to things I really regret. And worst of all, it got so bad I fapped off to a video with a younger looking character in it and I just cant believe how badly things have gotten for me. (Just to be clear, I never in 100 years would ever want to rape a kid at all.
Never thought of it and never will, but the fact that I even watched a video where the character looks like she's 5 years younger than me scares me so badly and it really makes me question my morality. I know what I did was very wrong and I cant change what | did. But I would never want to hurt a kid (or anyone that looks like one) that way, even if I messes up really badly by watching a porn video with a young looking character in it.) I know I've really messed up a lot in the past year and I can't stop thinking about it and | just wish I wasn't so immature and really realized the damage this could do to me mentally. I can't change the past and I likely wont forget what i've done, but today I had enough and want to change truly. I know my family has had some weird history with sex at a young age and stuff but I know they wouldn't want me to be like this and it sucks. I don't want to let them down and I keep messing up.
(I know me being horny can change my thoughts of things and can make me do things I regret in the heat of the moment but it's still wrong and I always have a choice to resist temptations.)I have lots of things I want to do and AM doing at the moment but porn is really holding me back and knowing the things i've done because of porn really taints me as a person and | just don't think I can forgive myself. I want to be somebody people look up to but every time I relapse I just feel like I become less of a person by each time. I know reddit may not be the best place to look for help, but it's a start. I want to do so many things and life but I will never get the chance if I continue this path of darkness. Its made me do things I'd never thought I would do and I don't want that to continue.