I’m currently on day 21 of Nofap. My main motivation is spiritual/religious and improving self-discipline. So far I’ve noticed a calmer mind, better self-control, and less guilt compared to when I was regularly watching porn and masturbating.
I’ve already removed most triggers (porn, NSFW content, and social media pages that encourage lust).
For those who have gone much further:
What helped you stay consistent?
What were your biggest mistakes?
What benefits did you notice after 30, 60, or 90+ days?
What advice would you give someone at day 21?
I’d appreciate any guidance or personal experiences.

I am under 18, started porn a couple years ago, only my mom knows, but she thinks I quit. I can't bear to tell her the truth that I'm still struggling. The most I've made it without porn is maybe a week? I can't even recall. I hate it so much and I want to return to Jesus. My mom is christian and so am I, and I want to quit porn before I get baptized. Ive tried the methods people recommended, asking God to take the lust away, using app blockers, nothing works reliably.

I want so badly to quit but im entirely lost on where to start, so if any of you can help, please do 🙏

I need help. I'm not able to control myself when I say I want to stop. I can't stop even when I know it's not good for me.

I'm 25 years old and have been doing it since I was 18.

Every time I feel the urge to do it I will post on here asking for help. Even if no one replies, it will be better than sitting there alone. It will be something to do, to take my mind off of those temptations.

I'm a believer in Jesus. I'm weak to temptation. I really enjoy it from a pleasure standpoint. I know it's not right on every level. I just am too deep in it to help myself.

Tenho 17 anos, comecei com o P em 2021 por conta da separação dos meus pais. Hoje 5 anos depois não consigo me livrar desse vício. Seu que é algo que demanda calma e resiliência.

Em Dezembro de 2024, fiquei 100% sóbrio até dia 2 de janeiro de 2026. E desde então o máximo de tempo sem, foi de 15 dias. Tem sido complicado, tentei pouco, por não achar que isso estaria diretamente me afetando. Eu tenho um trabalho ok, amigos incríveis, tenho hobbyes interessantes, mestro uma mesa de RPG. Um relacionamento incrível com uma mulher linda.

E tudo isso pesa quando lembro e me arrependo depois de ter feito ou caído em tentação. Preciso de ajuda de alguém que saiba como me ajudar. Ou pelo menos uma palavra amiga, já que sou incapaz de confessar a alguém.

Yes, you should make a welcome post immediately. But I’d make it more recovery-focused, searchable, and serious than Reddit’s default template.

Here’s a strong version:

Welcome to r/StopGooningNow — Quit Porn, Break the Cycle, Rebuild Discipline

Hey everyone, I’m u/BrainPlasticity, the founding moderator of r/StopGooningNow.

This is a recovery and accountability community for people who want to stop gooning, quit porn, break compulsive PMO habits, and rebuild self-control one day at a time.

Whether you’re on Day 0, Day 1, coming back after a relapse, or already building a strong streak, you’re welcome here. No shame. No excuses. Just honesty, support, discipline, and forward movement.

What to Post

You can post about:

• Daily check-ins: your day count, goals, wins, struggles, and plan for today
• Urge help: post when you feel close to relapsing and need support
• Relapse reports: what happened, what triggered it, and what you’ll change next time
• Victory posts: better focus, better sleep, more confidence, improved relationships, gym progress, studying, faith/spiritual progress, etc.
• Questions about quitting gooning, porn, PMO, edging, compulsive scrolling, and related habits
• Accountability partner requests
• Advice and strategies that helped you stay clean

Community Vibe

This is not a place for porn, bait, erotic stories, or shame-posting.

We want this community to be:

Supportive, honest, disciplined, beginner-friendly, and serious about recovery.

You do not have to be perfect to be here. But you do need to be honest and willing to fight for a better version of yourself.

Basic Rules

1. No porn, no bait, no explicit sexual content.
2. No glorifying gooning, edging, porn, or relapse.
3. Be respectful. Tough love is okay. Cruelty is not.
4. Keep relapse reports recovery-focused, not graphic.
5. Encourage action, not hopelessness.

Relapse is not the end. It is data. Learn from it, reset, and get back up.

How to Get Started

Introduce yourself in the comments:

Day:
Reason I’m quitting:
Biggest trigger:
My plan for the next 24 hours:

Even a simple comment like “Day 1. I’m tired of living like this and I’m ready to change” is enough.

If you’re new, your first mission is simple:

Get through the next 24 hours clean. Then come back tomorrow.

If you’re interested in helping moderate and build this community, message me. We’ll need people who care about keeping this place clean, supportive, and focused.

Thanks for being part of the first wave.

Let’s build the place people find when they search: “How do I stop gooning?”

Stop gooning. Quit porn. Rebuild your life.

I’d use this as your pinned welcome post. It has the important searchable terms: stop gooning, quit porn, PMO, relapse, urges, accountability, recovery. That helps the subreddit’s identity immediately.

I'll try to make this short enough so that people dont skip it 😬

I think we focus a lot on the wrong stuff when trying to quit porn. I’ve noticed that in most recovery subs, a lot of the advice given is about the wrong layer of the problem (or at least, not the most important one) Especially when it comes to blockers, day counters, what apps to install, cold showers, or stuff like "what to do when urges hit at 2am".

im not saying all of this is useless but it’s very surface level... You could check your day count, have your blockers on, get hit by an urge, take a cold shower, and still find a workaround for the blocker, and relapse.

We dont think about this much but it's very clear what’s happening in our brains. Porn really isn’t something we need. It feels like it because of the dopamine, that’s most of it (yeah everyone knows about dopamine obviously, but it's another thing to actually internalize it, and understand that.. that's basically all it is).

The brain knows it can get a massive hit in just a few clicks, bigger than anything else in your day 🤷‍♂️ And that is it. Chemistry doing what chemistry does. And IMO when you know this and read about it, the urges become a lot less scary and you understand that it’s not like a deep truth about yourself. It’s very mechanical and explainable...

Same with the urges. Lots of advice about fighting them out there, distracting yourself, and white-knuckling. But they’re just feelings, and feelings pass if you let them (like, they 100% pass..). And so we try to resist harder all the time, but what we should be able to do is sit there, feel the discomfort and breathe. Theres really no need to escape it.. urges have much less grip if you dont.

And then blockers and trackers are really just optional. Nice added friction for sure, but not doing 80% of the job like many seem to believe.

Im not saying it's all super simple and that we should not also ask ourselves why we’re reaching for it in the first place. Like boredom, loneliness, stress, trauma, etc. Sometimes we’re really trying to avoid feeling something. It doesn’t always look like that but it’s the case many times. We skip that thing and go straight to porn because it’s uncomfortable. like focusing on treating the symptoms, basically.

This is not a lesson or a list of advice, but I think it's important to understand the chemistry and learn how to feel towards urges.

It is my 16th day of being free from porn, so here are a few things I've experienced:

1. Quitting is actually easy: The first few days were pretty easy. Every time I thought about porn I was just mad about it, so I had some kind of a grief and disgust only by the thought of watching porn. Honestly it helped me a lot, and it made me NOT to want to open any porn sites.
2. Softporn on Social Media: The biggest problem for me. A few days ago my friend sent me an Instagram reel as a joke, but it was basically softporn. This was the closest moment for me to ALMOST masturbate to that IG reel. I highly recommend you to block any kind of softporn content or edging content on social media like TikTok, Instagram and YT...
3. Masturbation helps a LOT: If you actually masturbate, only without watching porn, then everything becomes almost easy. You can still masturbate, just use your own thoughts and ideas, and feel yourself. It is WAY HARDER to masturbate without porn after being addicted for a few years, but you can actually learn it by yourself. If you masturbate, you will get the dopamine anyways, but at least not as much as with porn, and you didn't actually watch porn. That is a great accomplishment actually.
4. Softporn is porn too: You may think that an old nude in your photo gallery or a kissing scene from a normal movie, or a sexy instagram post is not porn, but YES, it IS porn, when you were addicted to porn. It makes just the same to your brain as if you were watching actual porn. Think about it: You are actually gooning to pixels on screen. It really doesn't matter if it's not AS extreme as a direct porn, and you may not be watching it "on the hub", but it is basically the same. Don't do it.
5. Starting a counter: Using a time counter app actually helps a lot. If you start a counter, then you can see the progress by yourself. If you have an urge to watch porn, you can just open this app instead and watch how the seconds are going up. You actually see your progress real time, and instead of gooning, you can think about your goal.

I wish you all good luck for getting off porn. And the best thing to think about: DO NOT BE WEAK!

I've relapsed many times in the last 3 yrs and last night after just looking at explicit nudes on here i relaspe after 10 min of scrolling and watching 3.5 min of porn before bed and 4 min before work this morning. I viewed nwfw material last night , it does not excused me from watching actually porn. Im holding myself accountable. I want too show the younger generation that porn is not healthy and mastrubation can lead relapsing on porn for some . Quit making excuses . Also excessive mastrubation and obsessing over it is not healthy either. Im 37 and know how much the dopamine destroyed me.

For context in 2020 and 2021 I tried many attempts to quit fapping and porn all at once, never made it past 21 days. Personally I dont see myself quitting masterbation without a girlfriend, so my goal right now is just to quit porn which I've been addicted to for around a decade although not as badly as some others on here it has still been quite bad and disruptive to my life.

Im just sick of it like the rest of you and I want out. How are you guys doing so far at quitting? I actually quit nicotine a few years back and it was a cakewalk compared to this shit

Oh boy here we go again. After almost 2 years I masturbated (literally exactly 1 week ago) and yes this is a throwaway account due to 1 my main account being very random and 2 me being very guilty and very embarrassed of myself.

For context I am 16 years old. I stopped masturbating 2 years ago because of post nut clarity, lustful thoughts and being exposed to porn at a VERY young age (7 fucking years old) which caused me to be very drawn to porn and all that type of stuff.

So one week ago I was in my bed chilling and I was watching tiktoks until i came across goonbait type of video, and one thing happened after another.. and I masturbated. It weirded me out more than I freaked out, I didn't like really feel ashamed because honestly I had a traumatic experience with porn at a young age and wanted to actually come in touch with my intimate side since I was so afraid and like what if I ever get with a girl and freak out since I hadnt touched myself since forever and was afraid to do anything (if that makes sense) so i didn't take it so seriously until today.. because the same thing happened 1 week later. I don't know what to do, I feel like shit and im afraid this is gonna become a habit again (I used to masturbate like 5 times a day, yikes) and I don't want to be trapped in the same cycle i pushed myself to break for such a long time. I don't know what to do.. I need advice.

After being addicted to porn and masturbation for over 15 years, something in me just snapped last week. Deleted all my hoarded porn, cancelled my subscriptions, etc.

I have done this before, usually after a 5-6 hr fap session during post nut clarity. But those other times, I felt depressed in a few days and started re-downloading and re-hoarding stuff. Again to be disgusted with myself after another long fap session.

I would feel unclean, partly because of the kind of porn I was watching, partly because it was a secret I had to keep from all my friends and loved ones. Like i knew that they didn't know who I really was, or what I was doing when I was all alone. Having to take multiple viagra pill to maintain an erection (38M), having to seek out more extreme fantasies, wasting 15-20 hours every week fapping, had my self-esteem in a gutter.

This time feels different, I have had no urge to look at porn. After a week I feel noticably more energetic and less depressed. Sexualized imagery is not triggering anymore.

It's worth mentioning that I have been spending the extra time gaming, which is helping with the boredom part of this. And I do understand that I would need to seek out real relationships to succeed long term.

Anyway, I am hopeful, and made this post to hold myself accountable, and to share what I am feeling with folks who won't judge me too harshly.

Wish me luck!!

I’ve completed 15 days without porn and I’ve been relapsing for three days, any advices that helps me, and also is there any partners?