r/QuitPorn

So I (23M) have been clean for about 70 days, which is the longest I've gone without it. I feel more motivated to do things, I can actually sit through something without whipping out my phone, I have more confidence speaking with people, and overall I have no more brain fog. But with all this clarity, it made me think about how much this addiction had ruined my relationship.

I was in my first ever relationship a couple of months ago. We had known each other since elementary school and had been friends even during and after high school. I always had a thing for her but didn't know if she felt the same way, but as we got closer and closer we ended up texting, calling, and hanging out all the time. One thing led to another and we ended up becoming boyfriend and girlfriend, which made me the happiest guy ever. I thought to myself, "I finally have a girlfriend, I won't be addicted to porn anymore!" But I realized that was far from the truth. The first time we ever did it, I couldn't even get it up and felt so embarrassed, but she was so understanding and kept saying I was just nervous. Deep down, though, I knew it was due to my addiction. Every subsequent time we tried, it would end up the same way, and as time passed she kept getting more annoyed. I remember looking at her and not feeling anything, because my mind was so accustomed to masturbating to and watching these porn stars with their unrealistic bodies. Looking back, I think to myself that I was such a horrible person. She would always think it was her fault and felt insecure about it, but I kept trying to reassure her that it wasn't her, that it was just me. One night, when we tried and she stopped, she asked if I had a porn addiction. I remember my heart sinking and getting so nervous when she asked me that. I remember lying to her, saying I didn't have one, but looking back now, she knew I was just bullshitting.

I remember that night I booked a therapist to talk about my problems, and it was great, but I didn't have the funds to keep going with the sessions, so I ended up relapsing again and again, feeling more and more disgusted with myself. I kept thinking, "I have such a beautiful and smart partner, why can't I quit for her?" I knew the consequences of my actions, yet I still did them. Whenever we did have sex and it was successful, I would always tell myself, "See, porn isn't the problem!" So I kept watching it, even though I knew it was destroying my sex life, because every time I watched it, I genuinely thought, "This is better than sex." After a while, we didn't work out, due to some glaring issues and several other underlying factors.

After that breakup, I continued watching porn over and over again, hoping it would numb the pain of the breakup, but it didn't. So one day I decided to get my shit together and start going to the gym, watching what I eat, running almost every day, getting 7–8 hours of sleep, and waking up early. I read a lot of posts from this subreddit and watched many videos about people going through the same addiction as me. And for some reason, it was like a light switch flipped in my brain, and I stopped feeling the urge to masturbate to porn or watch it at all.

But I think what I'm trying to say in this post is: why did it take getting ruined by this addiction for me to finally want to better my life? Why did this thing I couldn't stop for my girlfriend suddenly stop after she was gone? I just wish I had been able to change back then and still have her here. I wish I had told her the truth instead of keeping it a secret; maybe things would have gone differently if I hadn't lied. But I know I had to go through this pain to grow.

Thank you all for reading, and please let me know if anyone has had a similar experience.

Please tell me its possible to escape. I keep relapsing and letting this fuck with my mind. Every time I get sent triggers it totally fucks with me and makes it impossible not to relapse it's ruining my girlcock. I recently got into a new poly relationship and the insecurities are eating away at me with this kink making me feel so inadequate since it's made my gock all limp and pathetic and not able to have proper sex. I spend way too much time relapsing. Even if I go weeks away I feel like I'm always one bad trigger away from falling back in.. How do I quit for good..

I genuinely can't believe I'm writing this: I've gone over a year without watching porn.

365+ days. No videos, no browsing, nothing.

What makes it even funnier is that I thought I'd make this huge post on the exact day I hit one year. Instead, I got busy living my life and only realised I'd passed the anniversary three days later. 😂I guess that's what happens when you're too busy with living your life and porn becomes a trivial part of your life now!

I'd been watching porn since I was about 13 and most of my adult life involved porn so it's pretty amazing to say that I am now one-year porn free!

If you're trying to break the habit yourself, my biggest advice would be to have a read of books like Atomic Habits which really helped me understand the psychology of habits and how to break habits :)

Anyway writing this cause I just needed to celebrate this milestone!

I started watching porn at the age of 12 and I can’t seem to stop my longest streak was 2 weeks. I usually start watching it again because of Instagram,TikTok and social media as a whole Ive tried to quit 200+ times but I always do it again Ive noticed that I only watch adult content on Reddit and nowhere else please tell me if there is a book,blocker,video or anything at all to help me with my journey to quit porn may god help us all.

I'm 41, male. My biggest issue is blocking access to anything adult while at work. I block every internet app except Chrome and YouTube. I listen to a lot of YouTube while I work. I also have a content blocker which catches most of the bad stuff on YouTube and Chrome. Chrome is pretty well censored, and I dont want to block it, since I want to have a browser available if i need it. The issue is that I'm pretty creative finding stuff that scratches the itch. I need help plugging the loopholes I use the wastes time at work, which costs me money. I have poorly managed ADHD too, which I feel isn't helping my urges. Ultimately, I want to quit porn completely, I just want to use the weekdays to refrain and work towards tapering off.

I've been fapping for 3 months and ever since i first did it I wanted to stop so I joined nofap but i keep seeing these guys who quit after years and i'm just worried that i'll have to be addicted for years to stop.

I’m really at the end of the road, I feel like no matter what I just can’t stop. It’s gotten to where I can’t become erect while around beautiful girls, I’ve lost so many chances at having real interactions because I can’t keep it up. In today’s society how good you are at sex places such a strong foothold. I feel like I’ve lost, my birthday is in 4 days. I please beg of all of you to hope, wish, pray that I finally make it out of this addiction. I want to feel alive again, I’m tired.

it's so difficult to not give in

it constantly ruins my everyday living—studies, relationships, basically everything that i got. i just know that it is tied to some sort of karma. ironic how i am aware but i still can't help myself

no matter how much i discipline myself; how long i try to stop myself; it feels like nothing is working. i would just find myself at night relapsing—looking at it again, and after doing it, the shame and guilt is sickening

i am so frustrated. i'm still young, and I don't want this to completely wreck me

i know that i'm the only one that can stop it, since i don't really want to open this up to anyone, but boy am i too weak to fight my own thoughts

i just want to be happy, but why does it have to be this that pleasures me? why did i let this consume me? why did i ever discover this?

any advice would be really helpful, especially those who had a really hard time also, but ended up freeing themselves

maybe someday, i can be proud of myself for finally escaping this cycle too

I feel like I know the answer to this, but thought I'd hear others opinions on it.

I've quit for about a month in the past, but on about a week now, and I've found that masturbating without porn is helping me, partly to get rid of sexual urges, and partly to realize that I don't need porn to ejaculate.

Most of the time I imagine a real life situation that is suited toward something that can actually happen, but occasionally my mind strays to some of the porn that I've watched. I can't help but think that this is something that I shouldnt allow?

I have been trapped in a cycle of relapses recently. The shame of breaking my promises to myself. My pride shattered like a broken glass, for not keeping my promises made on online forums.

What I need is thoughtful engagement in real life. Forgive myself. Clear my slate. Look ahead to what is possible. Not to overwhelm myself. Think positive. Negative thinking is second nature to me. Especially towards myself.

Day 0 away from watching Pornography. I resolve once again to commit and journal on my Mac and post here as well as and when I see it worthwhile to do so. Ideally once every 24-36 hours

I’m 38 years old.

This is the first time in my life that I’ve gone this long without doing anything, and I’ve already noticed a few small changes.

• The first thing is that my libido was really shitty. I would masturbate just for the sake of doing it—I didn’t even care that much about porn itself. I just wanted to masturbate and get off. In fact, toward the end, I was addicted to webcam sites and would masturbate while interacting with other people.
• In other words, the addiction had become more of a routine than actual sexual desire.
• After a few days, I noticed that my morning and nighttime erections came back stronger.
• My libido is slowly coming back. I’ve already had sex a few times without using Cialis.
• I’m less tired and less anxious, but I don’t think I’ll be able to have sex every time without Cialis just yet.

That’s it. Onward to 60 days!

The hardest part now is resisting the temptation to masturbate, rather than the porn itself.

I’m young and I’ve tried to quit so many times but I finally built up the strength to tell someone and I want to make this permanent. Any tips?

Finally reached my breaking point and got tired of it. I want to quit really bad so starting today I’m going to kick the habit of consuming pornography. Any tips tricks or things that have helped others I’m very open to hearing. Also would love to hear how it’s been for other people since quitting. Thanks 😁

Today wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.

No intrusive thoughts.

First thing I did after work was journal and write a budget.

The self care routines I set up 2 months ago are starting to come online again. Woke up this morning washed/cleansed/moisturised my face. Started me off on a win.

I'm not sure if it's related. It feels like when I indulge in other addictive behaviour (in my case, it was smoking cigarettes), it seems to feel almost impossible to resist pmo.

And when I quit smoking, the urge to pmo feels strong but manageable, and then it fades quickly.

Anyone find reducing/cutting off other bad habits makes it easier to stay on track?

I am currently facing a challenging situation. My husband and I have been together for a decade, and we have five children, including one who is no longer with us.( Jasper was born sleeping).

I found 6 months ago videos that my husband created of my face swapped into porn videos.some with one.man others with four men taking their turns with me.

I asked my husband why and are you jerking off to these men fucking me in these videos? His response was YES!

I FELT BETRAYED, UNLOVED, UNATTRACTIVE!

I ASK MY HUSBAND IF HE HAD A SECRET DESIRE TO SHARE ME?

My husband's response was no, he was sorry.

I later then found out multiple things about my husband and his p*** addiction. There was times where we were intimate with each other. And not even 5 minutes later, he would be in the shower. Getting more relief with this p***. As if I was not enough for him.

I later found out that after I had given birth to our sleeping son.The same day he returned home. He search history shows that he was again in the restroom, relieving himself to p***, not even twenty four hours.After our sleeping sun who was born.

These AI face swap videos that he created. There has to be at least 25 of them, all with different scenarios. A Sam with single men is some with multiple men. Taking their turns, all races assume doing role playing and with me. I just don't understand how to help my husband it threw this p*** addiction.

Since then, he has put a p*** blocker on his phone. It does not take the phone to the bathroom. And he always loses it. In camera view from this home security camera, if I am at work, hey suarez, that he is done with p***.And that he does not want to lose me.

And however, I'm having a daily struggle with myself confidence with my mental health. Because of the things that I have seen that he has created, does anyone have any advice that they can share with me to help me through this cause. Honestly, I am at a loss. And I don't believe anybody deserves this kind of treatment from their husband who says they're supposed to live and protect them. It makes no sense to me

I have read the easypeasy method book about quitting porn and I think it is great and really felt like it was eye opening but now I think 6 days later and I’m struggling really hard and I know everything I read is true and I still believe I have nothing to gain from porn but I still cannot help it I’m struggling so hard

How has it been?

I mean, it’s a fetish we enjoy — showing ourselves on webcam, masturbating, or just fooling around a little.

How has it been for you?
Did you stop the fetish?