u/the_shade9346

Oi oi oi, I like the environment here. Hell yeah.

Previously, i made it to 53 days. And then I went through some things, but I'm back now.

LETS DO THIS!!!

I know corn isn’t real and that a lot of OF models have surgery, editing, perfect lighting, etc. I know all of that logically, and I’m actually a really confident person most of the time.

But sometimes I still get wildly insecure about my stretch marks, hip dips, and just my body in general. I get overwhelmed really easily too, so once I start thinking about it, I spiral.

I saw a post recently about people in relationships basically micro-cheating by constantly getting off to women online even though they have a partner at home, and it genuinely scared me. I don’t entertain myself with any kind of corn when I’m with someone, and I think part of me is scared I’ll never find someone who feels the same way.

From a more educated perspective, I think a lot of my discomfort also comes from how inherently misogynistic much of mainstream corn is. Women are often reduced to bodies and categories, with increasingly unrealistic beauty standards and sexual performances presented as normal. It doesn’t just sell sex, it often sells a version of female sexuality designed almost entirely around male consumption, where women are expected to be endlessly available, visually perfect, and replaceable. I know not every form of sexual content is identical, but I find it difficult to separate mainstream corn culture from the objectification of women and the expectations it creates for real relationships.

Like, am I always going to be competing with thousands of perfect looking women on someone’s screen? I know comparison is pointless, but today is just one of those days where I look at myself and feel fucking ugly.

Today wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.

No intrusive thoughts.

First thing I did after work was journal and write a budget.

The self care routines I set up 2 months ago are starting to come online again. Woke up this morning washed/cleansed/moisturised my face. Started me off on a win.

I'm not sure if it's related. It feels like when I indulge in other addictive behaviour (in my case, it was smoking cigarettes), it seems to feel almost impossible to resist pmo.

And when I quit smoking, the urge to pmo feels strong but manageable, and then it fades quickly.

Anyone find reducing/cutting off other bad habits makes it easier to stay on track?

Today is a net negative day, got poor sleep last night, felt flat all day at work.

The positive thing about today is that I didn't have any horny/sexual thoughts, yesterday was my first day in about 2 weeks where I didn't pmo or have thoughts.

Tomorrow I'm assuming will be the worst of it.

After that I hope I'll be able to manage my habits better.

So far on my journey I've gone 7 weeks off 2 weeks on.

I identified weaknesses in my afternoon routine.

My self care systems failed due to grief.

Those 2 weeks on was a result of a month of grief and neglecting my exercise and self care.

Yesterday I went for a run after work, first run in a month, and would you guess it, the urge to pmo was subdued.

Exercise

Self care

Journaling

All three key to getting me back on track

Hello ladies and Gents,

As the title states, I relapsed, this Friday would have been 2 months. It's okay though.

Just to be open, I went on omegal, I got into unmoderated video rooms and that triggered the relapsed.

2 months of growth is still with me. And my pmo count is back to 0. Gotta keep myself accountable.

Wish me luck. I'll update y'all on week 4 🥲

This post doesn't directly correlate. The problem with porn is that it's compartmentalised as "fantasy" or "just a for fun".

It's easier then to think, oh some of these videos could be abuse.

Idk but when she said she probably won't ever get passed this it touched a part of my heart.

Not to guilt or shame just offering another perspective

Hi guys, I (27M) am new to Celibacy.

Next week will be 2 months PMO clean and was wondering how I can best start my Celibacy journey.

Advice and assistance welcome 🙏🏿

Hi Girls and Guys.

This day marks the 5th week pmo free, I want to say thank you to everyone in the subreddit and to also apologise if I have been a bit TMI.

I want to share my experience with this week, this week has been the best week so far in my journey. Cravings are far apart, they come and go so fast I don't even have time to register it, my parts are still working and looking good if I do say so myself (tmi tmi I'm sorry)

I also had a chance to share with you some of the deeper issues surrounding my addiction and by opening that can of worms have come to accept a part of myself. I'm not mad at who I was, the weight of shame and guilt has been dropped and left behind. I WILL NEVER PICK IT UP AGAIN.

I'm gonna beline to the kind of man I was meant to be, a man of God, a man who stands next to the truth, and a man who sees others and can help them.

I'll take the back seat for a while and update at the end of month 2. I'll still be here. Wishing you all the best of luck, God bless 🙌 🙏🏿 ❤️

This weekend was an emotionally difficult weekend, without getting into too much detail, I was sick and hit with some pretty shitty news.

(I didn't pmo)

I wasn't prepared for this combo of being sick and having to deal with some bad news so I smoked a cigarette. I share this because I was 6 weeks into not smoking and was feeling confident.

It was just a slip and I'm still going to keep quitting, I'll grab some patches and quickmist when I get paid and go from there.

This serves as a valuable lesson, because I wasn't prepared for an emergency, my brain quicky went to an easy dopamine path. Now to protect myself ill keep an emergency quickmist in my car/room.

I'll also have to think of an "in case of emergencies" plan for PMO. Any suggestions welcome, when I think of one I'll update y'all

Last night I astral projected for the second time, something was pulling my left arm and I arrived in an astral plain, there I saw a tree, and as I walked through the strains of lift memories of my life would pass. It was a radiant with a white glow.

I spoke to the thing that took me there and it told me, "you are to concerned with the material world, be close to God"

After I was in a room, I spoke to my ancestors, one woman and one man, I was talking to them about technology and art when the man said "we have enough workers"

Can anyone help me interpret?

Hi girls and guys,

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I wanted to open up and share my journey on quitting.

I started pmo young, early teens.

Was exposed to it younger, 9/10

And experienced sexual contact early on in life and believe that's the root cause of my addiction.

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I'm 27 (m) and have decided pmo is not for me, it's not who I am, and life can be and is more enjoyable without porn.

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Looking back at the last 14 years I can say porn and masturrbation has been a ball and chain holding me back. Worse still, the attitude about woman porn projected and I believed has caused much pain to the woman I was blessed to be able to love due to my misguided belief about, love sex and intimacy.

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I quit porn because it turned me into a shit human being, and in these 2 weeks ,I've identified the habits triggers and put systems in place I could follow blind.

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I'm already happier, the woman in my life are so wonderful, from work, neighbourhood and family, they deserve to be seen without being objectified and sexualised, and they deserve a man who's worth isn't defined about how many woman he can sleep with but by his own inherent belief.