r/Celibacy

To begin I also engage in (hopefully) not ever having sex to not get addicted to the action of life making and eventually creating it. First of all, AI and robotics will probably take away the need for humans for a lot of jobs, what this means is that we won’t nearly need as much humans as before to operate anything so society would still thrive. In 10 years from now we can only imagine the immense progress that could be made. So people not mating would actually benefit society since it wouldn’t create a human that would struggle finding work and living.

Also, if they are created they have guaranteed suffering, and saying that the good outweighs the bad wouldn’t really work, they would be in non existence anyways, no desire for good or bad. This is also counting the fact that climate change doesn’t create crazy stuff like the alarming increase of disasters in random places, the animal kingdom is cruel for survival, we humans are lucky by our intelligence but it is quite obvious that this world is inherenly flawed by its design. The lion has to kill the gazelle to survive. There is absolutely no intellectual reason to put a new life into this world that does not depend on ego or moral relativism.

im 17f and these past few weeks I've been trying to quit masturbating because of my struggles with porn addiction.

Recently it's been really difficult for me, I've cut out porn comepletely and I still can't seem to cut out the masturbation aspect.

I'm not sure what to do now. Any advice would really help.

2015 seems far yet close to me, I had separated from my wife and wanted to care for my children and promised
To not fall for women or get involved in any sexual activities to just focus my time, money, on my kids. 11 years later no sex and feel clear of any drama that could have happened coming from
Sex and diverting my energy to raising my kids, keeping my finances afloat, especially now. Actually I do not think of sex anymore, work, raising kids, finances take up all my time. I see attractive women as pretty physically but I don’t even get excited, I also avoid any contact with women, no hugs or kisses on the cheek, don’t want their perfume or makeup on my clothes, i learned that to keep clear of any sexual desires early on i just had to avoid situations that could bring physical contact. Now in 2026 I feel relieved that I managed to avoid any sexual activity and it has given me an incredible peace and focus.

Observe carefully the harmful effects that follow the loss of seminal energy.

People become physically, mentally and morally weakened by wasting seminal power so many times for nothing.

The body and mind refuse to work with energy.

There is physical weakness and mental lethargy.

You experience great exhaustion and weakness.

You have to resort to drinking milk, eating fruits and aphrodisiac preparations to compensate for the loss of energy.

Remember that these things will never, never completely repair the loss.

Once lost, it is lost forever.

You will have to drag yourself through a monotonous and sorrowful existence.

Physical and mental strength diminish day by day.

Some background: I went to an all-girls high school until I was 18, then a co-ed uni. Until I was 18, I was in a long on-and-off situationship with a guy. I explored so much with him, my feelings and hormones were intense, and I was even willing to give up my virginity but got too scared when we were trying.

When I started university, I decided that if it didn't happen with him, I wouldn't do it until marriage. Back then I was open to doing everything except sex, and I did those things when I wanted to. Then I nearly ended up in something with a guy who was really pushy, and it made me want nothing to do with men for a long time. I put everything into my career and school, and even moved abroad with my family to a more conservative city.

This past July, I made out with a guy i randomly met for the first time in two years. It didn't go far, apart from making out on my chest (lol sorry idk), but he was really pushing for more. I stopped it, but it set something off. I'm not constantly thinking about sex. What I feel is closer to desperation to feel wanted and desired. I don't think I've ever felt romantically loved purely for me. I used to be hypersexual, and that was how I got men's attention, and then they'd discover I also have a great personality and then he’d really get to know my but id get aroused and say some crazy stuff which would lead the guy onto that direction. I'd like to think I'm attractive, so maybe I'm just not used to having one guy pursue me at a time unless I'm in a relationship so not receiving direct attention is making me want to explore again. Now I'm thinking about going back to being open to everything but sex, and I don't know if that's smart.

Dating apps feel insanely sexual towards me, and I barely meet anyone to flirt with in real life. I also don't want to commit, but I do but I want someone to commit to me, and I know that's not fair. I just want to focus on me whilst also receiving that consistent extra love and support.

Everyone around me is either very conservative or inexperienced, so I can't talk about this with them without feeling judged. I'm also scared that if I do anything with someone, word will get out and I'll be labeled a whore forever.

So my questions are: is going back to "everything but sex" realistic when the guys I've met keep pushing past that line? How do I stoo having contradictory desires? one day I want it and then when I’m close to having it I shut it down.