u/pescadordeclashroyal

I have thought about it for a long time and the main thing that kept me from commiting in an LTR as a 19 year old guy was that I was scared that my partner ages with me and that she gets less attractive to me physically when I’m 60 or 70 and that I dont get laid anymore before I die. So to solve that I thought that me being promiscuous or celibate now and waiting until 40 to date a 20 year old would be ideal in terms of lifestyle purely for me, I am fairly physically attractive now and let’s assume I would be 40, fit and rich, the problem isn’t about getting the 20 year old partner or no.

It sounds like the perfect plan on paper; get laid with women my age now and then when I get to to 40 settle down to enjoy my remaining years, have children and get laid with an attractive partner until the day I die, literally until the day I die, it’s just that there seems to be an ick for me in that plan, its technically good but I just don’t want to commit to it for whatever reason, a lot of guys say it’s great to do that too, so if one of you can find a genuine flaw in that plan I’ll be happy to hear it, and we assume everything goes well for the sake of the argument. It’s just that I weirdly don’t seem drawn by it, might be my mind playing around.

I have thought about it for a long time and the main thing that kept me from commiting in an LTR as a 19 year old guy was that I was scared that my partner ages with me and that she gets less attractive to me physically when I’m 60 or 70 and that I dont get laid anymore before I die. So to solve that I thought that me being promiscuous or celibate now and waiting until 40 to date a 20 year old would be ideal in terms of lifestyle purely for me, I am fairly physically attractive now and let’s assume I would be 40, fit and rich, the problem isn’t about getting the 20 year old partner or no.

It sounds like the perfect plan on paper; get laid with women my age now or do semen retention and then when I get to to 40 settle down to enjoy my remaining years, have children and get laid with an attractive partner until the day I die, literally until the day I die, it’s just that there seems to be an ick for me in that plan, its technically good but I just don’t want to commit to it for whatever reason, a lot of guys say it’s great to do that too, so if one of you can find a genuine flaw in that plan I’ll be happy to hear it, and we assume everything goes well for the sake of the argument. It’s just that I weirdly don’t seem drawn by it, might be my mind playing around.

I don’t know if I’m weird but I genuinely do not like sleeping with women that are openly treated badly by other guys and seen as “for fun only” and undeserving or a relationship by most guys that sleep with her, I need to feel like she usually doesn’t do this and that she can have a guy that loves her if she wants, the more of this power she has the better I feel, for instance is she voluntarily just left her boyfriend by herself or if a lot of guys wish to wife her up, when it’s the opposite I find that disgusting and genuinely just want to help them rather than sleep with them, I don’t feel special and I feel like she usually does this for instance I would find no reward sleeping with an escort but I would feel happy doing the same transactional thing with a random hot woman that has someone in her life and give her a luxury date as a reward, I want to feel like I’m not using people but that they come to me by their own desires and that everyone is having a good time.

I am not talking about her having a “good girl” reputation, I am just talking about her genuinely not usually doing that, like banging them while we met on vacation, I am in college rn but for instance that would mean me not liking having sex at frat parties; I want to feel like the women I sleep with are easy for me but have other guys simping on them, I know this might sound very weird but I was just wondering if anyone thought that way or if I’m strange for not wanting to bang women in vulnerable situations.

I am a 19 year old guy and I genuinely want to know what would be the thing that would theoretically make you the most happy, would it be better to just get laid left and right when you are younger and settle down in your 30s or 40s or is it better to get into a long term relationship when young that would technically work out and be there your whole life, I am giving these two extremes where both are to the fullest to truly illustrate the benefits and flaws of both sides, I think that a middle option wouldn't work here because if you want to date long term when young but then settle down with a younger partner later on you would have some emotional ties which could make that path harder, so lets assume these two extremes.

Genuinely speaking, what would be the best thing to do, if you guys had the choice to either marry young and have a lifelong relationship with a partner you really like but to then experience her getting less attractive and having her drive drop as she ages with you or to get laid with no emotions while young and then settle down in an age gap when older where you get to not witness a major decrease in her attractiveness as much as if you were the same age and her always matching your drive even when you are older, I hope this question does not sound weird, but explain why you made that certain choice if you could, if that question sounded insensitive its because I am a young autistic guy trying to make the best choice amongst a sea of opinions on the internet so I just want to get to know what real guys think.

I am a 19 year old guy and I would be éligible for a bit more than the top 5% of incomes in the US, as you can deduce I don’t know much about how life operates for rich folks and I genuinely want to know what would be the thing that would theoretically make you the most happy, would it be better to just get laid left and right when you are younger and settle down in your 30s or 40s or is it better to get into a long term relationship when young that would technically work out and be there your whole life, I am giving these two extremes where both are to the fullest to truly illustrate the benefits and flaws of both sides, I think that a middle option wouldn't work here because if you want to date long term when young but then settle down with a younger partner later on you would have some emotional ties which could make that path harder, so lets assume these two extremes.

Genuinely speaking, what would be the best thing to do, if you guys had the choice to either marry young and have a lifelong relationship with a partner you really like but to then experience her getting less attractive and having her drive drop as she ages with you or to get laid with no emotions while young and then settle down in an age gap when older where you get to not witness a major decrease in her attractiveness as much as if you were the same age and her always matching your drive even when you are older, I hope this question does not sound weird, but I see a ton of rich guys having wives that are much younger so I was wondering if I should wait to do like them and just do hookups in the meantime.

I am a 19 year old guy and I genuinely want to know what would be the thing that would theoretically make you the most happy, would it be better to just get laid left and right when you are younger and settle down in your 30s or 40s or is it better to get into a long term relationship when young that would technically work out and be there your whole life, I am giving these two extremes where both are to the fullest to truly illustrate the benefits and flaws of both sides, I think that a middle option wouldn't work here because if you want to date long term when young but then settle down with a younger partner later on you would have some emotional ties which could make that path harder, so lets assume these two extremes.

Genuinely speaking, what would be the best thing to do, if you guys had the choice to either marry young and have a lifelong relationship with a partner you really like but to then experience her getting less attractive and having her drive drop as she ages with you or to get laid with no emotions while young and then settle down in an age gap when older where you get to not witness a major decrease in her attractiveness as much as if you were the same age and her always matching your drive even when you are older, I hope this question does not sound weird, but explain why you made that certain choice if you could, if that question sounded insensitive its because I am a young autistic guy trying to make the best choice amongst a sea of opinions on the internet so I just want to get to know what real guys think.

I am a 19 year old guy and I genuinely want to know what would be the thing that would theoretically make you the most happy, would it be better to just get laid left and right when you are younger and settle down in your 30s or 40s or is it better to get into a long term relationship when young that would technically work out and be there your whole life, I am giving these two extremes where both are to the fullest to truly illustrate the benefits and flaws of both sides, I think that a middle option wouldn't work here because if you want to date long term when young but then settle down with a younger partner later on you would have some emotional ties which could make that path harder, so lets assume these two extremes.

Genuinely speaking, what would be the best thing to do, if you guys had the choice to either marry young and have a lifelong relationship with a partner you really like but to then experience her getting less attractive and having her drive drop as she ages with you or to get laid with no emotions while young and then settle down in an age gap when older where you get to not witness a major decrease in her attractiveness as much as if you were the same age and her always matching your drive even when you are older, I hope this question does not sound weird, but explain why you made that certain choice if you could, if that question sounded insensitive its because I am a young autistic guy trying to make the best choice amongst a sea of opinions on the internet so I just want to get to know what real guys think.