Man I’m in love with just welcomed a baby girl with his ex
Looking for some advice… although I think deep in my gut I know what I need to do/the right thing to do.
Please don’t judge me, we all live different lives and have had different experiences..
I am fresh out of a marriage that was badly abusive. Physical emotional mental, you name it.. it took me many years to leave and now that I summoned the strength (he is a full blown narcissist) me and the kids are living with a family member since he kicked us out (both our names are on the house but hey ho).
A few months ago I started talking to this amazing amazing man, and it transpired we are both heavily attracted to one another, and got on like a house on fire.
One thing led to another, and I’d say we are in love. The feeling is totally mutual, however…..
One small detail I forgot to mention….
He was in a relationship and with a baby on the way. Living together. They split up obviously before we did anything (I’m not a total ass) and now the baby is here.
I’m feeling lost, heartbroken, left out, the guy I’m in love with/seeing is head over heels in love with this new baby. And while I love that for him & he is absolutely doing the right thing by being a supportive dad, my heart is breaking. I have tried to communicate this, although there’s nothing he can do?
Guys WHAT do I do. Please help me. I have never in my life had a connection like this, I feel like an idiot…. He is still living with his ex, should I just move on and cut my losses? Easier to say when your heart isn’t involved. Worth mentioning I have kids too but they’re much older & I co parent effectively with my ex, we don’t live together, it’s very cut and dry compared to this situation.
I know there are many red flags & I played a part in this. Please help. I haven’t stopped crying since this lovely baby was born. I can’t even stand to hear his ex’s name. I’m very open minded but this might just finish me off…