u/Character-Current663

I (26F) am seeing this guy (26M) and we went on our first date a week ago. He told me he broke up with his ex of 9 months because he “wasn’t in love” and was moving cities for work, so he thought it was the best time to end things.

Then he followed that up by saying his ex “wasn’t affectionate” and that dating her felt “like dating his sister.” I immediately got the ick, but somehow I stayed because he was really cute and I was curious. Looking back… was that an immediate red flag? Also he has a very specific type when it comes to women. He likes women of certain ethnicity. Is that weird too?

For context, we (both 26) met twice, had crazy chemistry and the most perfect dates. He went to another state to complete a training, never called me (in spite of me asking him to), his work kept him busy (he was a captain in training ✈️), I spiraled, ended things, went back, we sorted things out (over text), he became sad and unmotivated during his training, turned wishy washy with me, I started spiraling again, we both said some mean things to each other (I was meaner), told him this is why I’m not into him anymore (wasn’t true), we ended things, next day I apologized by sending 3 long paragraphs and telling him things from my pov, ended things on good terms and kind of left the door open for him, NO RESPONSE AT ALL. It’s been 3 months and I still think about him very much. I’ve worked on myself and my insecurities but I wasn’t entirely at fault. He just isn’t as emotionally mature but my mind can’t forget him. I saw him on bumble a month ago (he probably saw me too) but I don’t think he’s seeing anyone.

I’d appreciate some helpful responses on what I can do now. I’d very much like to speak to him again. He liked me, that’s for sure but I pushed him away by acting emotionally too quickly