Fifth wheeling advice?
I am part of a core 4 friend girl group with 2 other girls who are more on the peripheral we have all known each other since elementary school. Most of us have been single our entire lives and we are all 25 now. I personally got out of a relationship about a year ago and am focusing on myself and my career right now. My friends on the hand have been more serious about getting into relationships after a long streak of being single. Within the last 3 month of of my girl friends admitted they had feelings to each other and are dating without the other 2 peripheral girls knowledge. My other girl friends in the core 4 started seeing a man as well. It’s a big change for me because not only am I getting used to my friends always being busy but two of them are dating each other secretly.
When I hang out with my 2 girl friends who are dating I seldom feel like I’m 3rd wheeling but I do think they try really hard to act like friends around me to not make me feel awkward when it’s just us.
Soon my other friend is bringing her man for us to meet and the 2 peripheral friends may or may not come they’re usually not as involved.
I have started really overthinking this dinner bc I’m afraid I’m gonna feel like I’m fifth wheeling. I want to meet my friends new man and see everyone but it feels a little weird to me to fifth wheeling two couples and I feel like no one else is even thinking about it from my perspective. But also what other options do we have? Especially bc her man lives in another city and now when they see each other they spend 2 weeks at a time at each others places.
Idk if I’m being dramatic or jealous or unfair or really how to handle this situation. I just feel like they all kinda pity me or something. I’m just worried there’s no way out of this situation without losing my friends.
Would appreciate any advice!