Do Bridezillas ever go back to normal?
My cousin and I used to be extremely close. We talked every day, and she was my MOH. When I got married wanted to be very involved in my wedding planning, so I shared ideas with her, and she helped me put together invitations, work through details, and figure out things that needed to get done. I loved getting to go through my bridal era with her support.
She got engaged two months before my wedding. I was so happy for her. I helped her fiancé with the proposal, helped plan the engagement party right after, and me and my husband even helped him pick out her ring. I wanted to be just as supportive of her as she had been of me. But once she got engaged, everything changed.
Suddenly, my wedding seemed to become a chore to her. She started complaining about certain things we were doing at our wedding because they “stealing” ideas from her wedding, even though we had already been planning our wedding for almost a year and she had been involved in those plans herself. She also told me that she doesn’t care how much money our grandparents gave them, she’s not inviting extended family, like I did. She also constantly talks about how it will mostly friends than family since she has so many. It felt like my wedding stopped being something she was happy for me about and became more of a competition. She didn’t ask me to be her MOH. After I got married, if anyone even mentioned my wedding or anything about it she would glare at me. She is the type that can turn any topic into something about her big day.
We’re now married and have been for a little over two years. We recently bought our first house, which we’re fixing up and making our own. Her only real comment about the house has basically been that she would never buy a house as old as ours and that she is going to custom design her own.
I feel like every major milestone has become a comparison. If we do something, she needs to explain why she would do it differently or better. And I’m honestly not interested in competing with her.
I wish we could go back to how things were before the engagement. I’m starting to worry that every big life milestone from now on is going to turn into some kind of competition that I never agreed to participate in.
Has anyone ever had a bridezilla go back to normal after the wedding?