u/Character_Quit_5915

I broke the pattern of dating people that I know that will end in hurt and pain. Its like a weird addiction.

Im on 3rd date with someone who is almost perfect. He is kind, respectful, smart, stable, and well rounded. The thing is even after 3 dates I'm not attracted to him. I feel safe, I feel entertained, but nothing else. Is this normal?

Also my brain is trying to find the tiniest flaws to give me a reason to no pursue. Like my father is racist against his race, although he married that race... so my brain is telling me there will be problems, and society will be racist against us, which is partly true.

Anybody with similar experience?

I just went on 3rd date with someone I know is good for me rather attraction. I know I have a history going for people that

Ive had a pattern of dating people I know will hurt me, its a weird addiction. So I decided to date someone I know will be good for me rather than feeling attraction.

Its been the 3rd date and Ive developed ROCD. I just dont feel anything toward this person, although he is nice, respectful, extremely start, stable, and financially well. And My OCD is clinging on his race, im mix race, and i know how hard being of that race. So the obsession has started, and the complusions soon followed.

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