u/Charles_thedragon — reddlx

My husband and I got in an argument today. My doctors called asking me to come in immediately. While we were waiting, my husband began to talk about the fact that I might be about to lose my ability to drive legally. I don't mind the realist talk on what could happen but he continued to only repeat that I would lose my license. There were no words of support, reassurance, offers of assistance or transportation ideas for the future. He's not required to do that, it's just what I needed at that moment. Unfortunately, I got angry because I felt like he was telling me to figure everything out on my own and that it was MY problem only. I managed to cool down after a long day of obsessing over everything that could go wrong before my next doctor's appointment and apologized. I explained how it made me feel and we managed to resolve everything. My husband is a wonderful person but sometimes I feel alone in figuring things out because he doesn't know what MS feels like, both physically and mentally. I want to be a better person for him but I feel like my MS has made me into the person no one wants at the party. Edit: When we sat down and talked about it, he said he didn't realize how it came across and that he was just worried that I was getting worse and not able to communicate it properly. We have worked out how we would handle me not driving anymore but I explained to him that it is very unlikely that it will happen at this point and it is the worst case outcome. Sometimes I feel like I can't properly explain how I feel to him but I guess I also need to understand that caregivers have their own stressors about the situation too. Thank you everyone for letting me vent about the situation. I appreciate all the input.