u/Charlottie892

my girlfriend and i (both 19F) both have a history with eating disorders. i am 95% recovered, and she was mostly recovered but getting worse again recently. im trying to support her and i understand her completely but im still getting frustrated. it feels unfair on me and it feels like she isn’t trying hard enough. im aware that this is unfair of me to say but it’s just how im feeling and i can’t help it. i love her but i don’t know if i can continue being involved in her recovery, but i also know i can’t ignore it because nobody else is helping her. i want her to recover but i don’t want to be the one nagging her all the time, and im scared that im going to get triggered into a relapse too. i don’t know what to do, i love her, but i can’t deal with her eating disorder and i don’t know how to communicate this to her without upsetting her or making her feel like she can’t talk to me. sorry if this is just an incoherent ramble i just don’t what to do

my girlfriend 19F gets a high rate of PIP (personal independence payment) because of her disabilities. however, her mum keeps 85% of it to spend on household bills (fair enough), going out with friends multiple times a week, and other various luxuries (latest iphone a few weeks ago). she works part time - for reasons unrelated to my girlfriend - and claims she is taking the money as “carers wage” but she hardly does any caring, nor does she spend the majority of this money on the person she’s supposedly caring for. is there anything my girlfriend can do to get this money? i doubt she would be willing to take legal action against her mother but she might be able to negotiate with some legal knowledge