u/Charm_quarkk

I (19 F) recently joined a gym, and my trainer ( around 30-35 year old ) is a guy. I didn't opt for personal training, only general training. Which is supposed to consist of them giving us a workout plan and we get to just follow that.

But the trainer is telling me to send pics of my face before and after the gym to see how tired I get after workouts, I mean can't he just see if I get too tired at the gym itself?

Then to send pics of my meals throughout the day. He also asked me stuff other than the gym like how was my exam and if I reached home, and then said something like I thought of asking you to take a selfie, when I asked why, he said to see your reaction after your exams. Like bro.

So is this something normal at the gym? Do trainers ask people to send pics of their face before and after workout?

I (19 F) recently joined a gym, and my trainer ( around 30-35 year old ) is a guy. I didn't opt for personal training, only general training. Which is supposed to consist of them giving us a workout plan and we get to just follow that.

But the trainer is telling me to send pics of my face before and after the gym to see how tired I get after workouts, I mean can't he just see if I get too tired at the gym itself?

Then to send pics of my meals throughout the day. He also asked me stuff other than the gym like how was my exam and if I reached home, and then said something like I thought of asking you to take a selfie, when I asked why, he said to see your reaction after your exams. Like bro.

So is this something normal at the gym? Do trainers ask people to send pics of their face before and after workout?

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Trigger warning : has mentions of SA

Whenever I used to see a person dating someone who was horrible, I used to think, what is wrong with them? I only understood it after I was in the same situation.

My ex was the sweetest person when we met, and I heard about how his exes treated him horribly and how he was hurting, and I honestly felt bad for him, thinking that they were the problem for leaving such a nice guy. If only I knew. He manipulated me so much, made me super insecure, and convinced me it was always my fault. From small arguments to big fights, somehow it was always me who was in the wrong. Even when he fell in love with another girl, it was still somehow my fault because I did not do everything he said.

He used to coerce me into doing stuff he wanted and if I said I was uncomfortable or that I didnt feel like it, he would call me selfish and manipulate me by saying that I shouldn't be this selfish and I need to sacrifice a few things for my him. And if I still refused he used to get angry.

It was so bad that even when he told me that he was turned on thinking of how I was raped as a child and that he was jealous of my rapist.

I said nothing cause I was afraid I'm gonna start a fight and its gonna be my fault for overreacting.

And every time I tried to leave, he would act all sweet, beg me to stay, tell me he was sorry, and would soon switch back to his old ways.

Thank God I had my best friend who realized how bad of a situation I was in and made sure I never spoke to him again.

I haven't spoken to him in 5 months, and I couldn't be happier.