u/ChartBrilliant8929

i broke up with my bf a few days ago, it wasn't exactly a verbal breakup, but i found things on his phone that made me explode especially since i’ve been putting up with so much for the past four years, i forgave him for everything, yet it still hurts, he has always been emotionally distant with me, and he even accused me of cheating when i never did anything wrong. A few days ago, when i found something on his phone, o got really upset and yelled at him, in response, he hit me, he grabbed me by my clothes and hit me again, simply because i had gotten emotional. Am I the one who’s in the wrong? I still miss him and feel lost without him, but i know it isn't healthy for me to be with someone like that. His entire family and all his friends have told him that he needs to treat me well, but he simply doesn't care. I don't think he likes me enough, because he keeps following other girls who fit his "type"and I look nothing like them.

I don't know how to feel. He was the first for me in so many ways, but he simply doesn't change he never apologizes, he doesn't reach out to see how I'm doing, and he doesn't care about me in the slightest. I feel like I wasted four important years with someone who never loved me and just lied right to my face.

He (M22) and I (F22) have been in a relationship for three years, though we’ve known each other for four. We initially started a relationship that lasted only two weeks because I found out he was in a long-distance relationship with another girl however, we remained friends. He continued dating her, something he never told me about, so we tried dating again. I found out once more and pulled away, this same cycle repeated itself about four times, until I finally distanced myself from him for a long period. Eventually, though, I missed him, so we went back to being friends; by then, he had completely broken things off with her, so I agreed to be his gf once again.

Everything was going well, and I tried to give him one last chance because he seemed sincere; however, during our first year together, I discovered that he was looking at porn on Twitter. He had a secret Twitter account where he talked about his ex saying that he missed her and still loved her. We had been in a relationship for a year, yet he still loved her. I told him to delete the account, and he did, but he continued to view porn on various websites or pay for video calls. All of this took a heavy toll on my mental health, and I didn't know how to bring things to an end. He started treating me poorly and stopped caring about how I felt, yet I just put up with it. Now he has stopped doing all of that (I think idk) , as I still don't trust him). We’ve been doing well lately, but he has some online friends who actually came to visit our city and met him in person. On a server, they made comments about my body and about me in general even saying that they wanted to date me wtv and my boyfriend never said a word about it not even a simple "stop saying that" OR SOMETHING BRUH

After all this time, I thought I would get fed up and break up with him but I don't know, I just can't. I feel stupid about the whole thing