u/Chaser2019

I (27M) was with my partner (28F) for 4 months and things were going very well. There were no shifts in energy/texting the days prior from her behalf from my perspective. We cuddled on the couch after dinner and then went to bed and had sex. I woke up at 8am with her not in the bed but, I didn’t think too much of it. I then woke back up at 8:15 with her fully dressed saying “I have some bad news” and she got emotional.

She then gave me the most vague and cliché reasons like “it’s not you, it’s me.” “I’m not ready for something long term” “I need to be alone to heal.”

The day prior she was texting me about taking me to her local farmers market and a new restaurant she wanted to try.

I’m almost positive she’s talking to her ex again according to some detective work on instagram and the top of her followers list is her ex boyfriend..

Edit: I met her parents 2 weeks ago as she told me that she had been talking a lot about me to them. They were lovely people

Edit: the worst part is that I was so healed and intentional for a relationship as I’ve been single for a couple years after some tough breaks. I’m more sad and angry that I gotta spend a couple months recovering from everything as the rebound.

Long story short, I (27M) have been seeing a woman (28F) for 4 months now. Two of those months have been exclusive. Things have been going really well with chemistry and overall experience. I met her parents 2 weeks ago and chatted with them for 45 minutes.

Fast forward to this last Sunday evening I go over to her place, cook dinner, and stay the night. It was just like any other date and it was amazing. The energy wasn’t off and we cuddled/had sex. I wake up Monday morning with her not in the bed which was unusual and she comes back in her room around 8:15am. I’m waking up from a dead sleep and she says “can we talk”. As we all I know what that means.. anyways I get up to brush my teeth and as soon as I finish she starts crying and says “I can’t do this anymore, I need some time alone to heal from my last relationship”..

Keep in mind we’ve been having monthly check ins regarding “us” and where we stand and every time she would always assure me by saying “thank you for being patient with me”. This always ended with us hugging and her being a bit emotional. This made me feel like I was doing all the right things as she always reassured me I was.

My question is, how can I go from meeting someone’s parents 2 weeks ago, to having a lovely dinner/sleepover date the night prior to her saying “she needs to be alone and time to heal/not ready for a serious relationship”? I was completely blindsided and we haven’t spoken since yesterday.

I want to text her and emphasize that she can be vulnerable with me as I want to be a part of the healing journey. But I just have a hunch that she is just letting me go as softly as she can. I want to reach out but, I don’t want to come off as desperate as I respect her boundaries and word.. any advice??