I want my avoidant ex back help
My ex was super avoidant. On our second date, he literally asked me to marry him, and then a few months later he randomly blocked me on everything.
I’m not saying I was perfect either. Back then I didn’t know anything about avoidant attachment, so whenever we had issues I’d send long emotional paragraphs and kinda corner him trying to talk things out. A few days after one of our arguments, he blocked me.
I tried breaking up with him like 3 times because I caught him texting other girls, but he kept saying it “wasn’t cheating” because he was “just texting.”
It’s been like 9 months now, and recently I figured out what I think is his burner account. My IG is private and I barely get follow requests, but this same account has tried following me 3 times this week already. I declined every time.
The thing is… now that so much time has passed, part of me kinda wants him back. But this time I want to approach things more strategically. Since learning more about avoidant attachment, I feel like I understand him way better now, and honestly I want to increase the chances of things going differently this time.
So what would you do?
Do I:
- accept the request?
- keep my boundaries and wait for him to actually reach out/unblock me?
- wait a few days then accept?
- or just leave this whole thing alone?