Depressed Fiancé
I have been with my partner for over 5 years. The first 4 were wonderful and we made so many great memories and have had so much fun together. He started his job as a veterinarian about a year ago. I understand being a veterinarian is extremely hard as I have worked in the vet field. The first couple of months that he was working he was in a god awful mood all the time. He would come home and not speak to me he would hide in the bathroom for hours. I would try and talk to him and he would tell me “ you dont get it”. Then would sit out in his car for a while talking to his mom which is fine. I try and plan things for him to do he doesn’t do it. He has 5 cavities right now I make him dentist appointments and he doesn’t go. I have done absolutely everything in my power to help him and he will not try and get better. I have severe anxiety and depression and I also suffer from trichotillomania. So I get it I try and tell him what helped me he wont listen and doesn’t care. I have made him appointments with therapist and he wont go. He claims everything is because of his hours and work but he also goes in every single off day he has and goes to the clinic multiple times in a weekend even when we dont need to. We got engaged about a month ago and we were both excited. I was seriously hoping that this would help him but since being home he is back in the same rut if not worse. He refuses to talk about the wedding as far as what we want to do. I am working at his moms gift shop all day today so she could go out of town. I got together gifts for his techs that just had babies I asked hime to come and pick them up, he said he cant because a cat died that he did surgery on yesterday and he is too upset to drive 3 miles down the road and pick stuff up. Im not trying to be insensitive but I have seriously struggled and no body gave me grace or cared that I was depressed. I just dont know how we are supposed to progress in life if he will not even try and get better. I am seriously reconsidering marriage because I just dont know if I can do this for the rest of my life its not the anxiety and depression its the fact HE WILL NOT TRY.
Edit: I wanted to mention also. He only is responsible for his job. I do all the house work indoor and outdoor and I take care of all 10 of our animals plus holding down my own job.