need to move out of my parents house
i don’t really know where exactly to start because i’ve never really spoken on reddit for like advice with something lowkey traumatic but basically i’ve been in a sort of? abusive household my whole life. i don’t want to say anything that could come across wrong because i know some people have it a lot worse. my dad was arrested in 2022 for domestic abuse because he tried to unalive my mum. i always grew up pretty poor anyway but losing that income added a lot of stress. my mum became really sick with ptsd from the situation and i basically had to put my whole life on hold to care for her. i had to drop out of uni which i can’t return to now because of the limit on student funding, i also had to leave my job at the time so had absolutely zero savings. my mum started to improve? but refused to go back to work so when i could get a job again, i basically have to give her my entire paycheck. I’m not dismissing what her or any of us went through but whilst my dad was abusive, he wasn’t the only one. my mum can be very selfish and controlling, we got in an argument and at the moment i’m not even allowed to brush my teeth or use the toilet because she ‘pays for the water’ even tho i’ve argued that i give her a lot of money towards the house. She’s thrown things at me, called me names and now i can’t even do basic things in my own home. im at a point where i can’t even wee or even eat because im not allowed to eat stuff she pays for, if i buy food she eats it out of pure spite and if i keep it in my room she yells at me. i’m not going into everything because i don’t want to trauma dump online but just giving perspective that it’s a bad situation. i’m only 21 and i can’t get more hours at work, im looking for other jobs on the side and sometimes my boyfriend will let me stay there but it’s not realistic for work because he lives in an area with no busses or trains and i don’t drive. i’ve been trying to do lessons but with her taking the majority of my money i can’t.
Basically my question is if there’s any ways to make money quickly. We’ve been looking and with rent prices here i’d need about 3.2k for a deposit and first months rent, i have 1.2k saved because i sent in to my boyfriend so she couldn’t get to it and he saved it for me (not ideal ik but it was either trust him or my mum so) it’d be okay if i could save over time but i can’t because she takes it all. at one point she maxed all my credit cards and when i hide things she’ll rip my room apart looking. i need out asap and to save the other 2ish thousand would take me a year at best and i dont think my mental health can stand that.
So i guess im just asking if anyone knows quicker ways to obtain the money. i’m open to any advice, i just need to get out.