Best friend drama
I (22M) have a male friend (22M) whom I call my best friend. We have been friends since we were 5 years old, and now we are 22. In 9th class, I met a girl (22F) and we became good friends. After 11th class, the connection between me and that girl almost disappeared. After 12th, my best friend (22M) became closer to her than I was.
During my 4th year, I came back in touch with both of them. We usually talked as a trio on WhatsApp calls or normal calls. Over time, sometimes that girl (22F) would call only me for casual talks and to ask how I was doing. Now here is the situation: my best friend (22M) has a crush on this girl (22F). Meanwhile, she became my female best friend. Also, she already has a boyfriend.
Me and the girl started talking often, almost every day, sometimes for 3–4 hours continuously. We became very comfortable with each other. She sends me her pictures and I send mine. One day, while she was giving her master’s exam in my best friend’s city, he had her phone because he had gone to help her. During that time, he read all her private WhatsApp chats, especially the chats between me and her.
After reading them, he became angry with me and stopped talking to me.
I tried to explain that this was normal friendship. I told him, “You are her friend and I am also her friend. She is committed and already has a boyfriend. Why do you have a problem with me talking to her?”
He replied, “You were my best friend. You knew I liked her, and still you talked to her like this. If it were some other guy, maybe it was okay, but why you?”
Because of this situation, I stopped talking to the girl. At that time, she was in my best friend’s city, so they met often. Later, she fought with him and said, “Because of you, he stopped talking to me. He is trying to save your friendship.”
During this argument, my best friend exposed himself and admitted that he had read all our chats. She became very angry, blocked him, and stopped talking to him.
After about a month, she called me and told me everything. Since then, we started talking again. Now she calls or messages me almost every day—sometimes in the afternoon, sometimes evening, and almost every night. We play games, watch movies online, and talk for long hours.
She even gave me a nickname, “Jojo.”
A few days ago, she said she was going to her nani’s home and might not talk much, but even then she managed to call and message me. She also worries about me—for example, when I was traveling from Hyderabad to my home, which is around a 1200 km journey.
Recently, I noticed that my male best friend (22M) unfollowed me on Instagram. I don’t know what he is thinking. Now I am confused.
She talks to her boyfriend, but usually not for more than an hour, while she talks to me for much longer. Sometimes I wonder—am I just her time pass, or does she genuinely care about me?
We watch movies together, she seems comfortable with me, and sometimes says that when she comes to my city, we will roam around together. I also flirt sometimes, and she doesn’t seem to mind.
So now I am confused and need advice:
Should I stop talking to this girl (22F)? Who is wrong in this story? Was I (22M) wrong?