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LEGEND.

This post is for people who’ve actually experienced staying at home because hakuna kazi..

Not because you’re lazy haujitumi ama you're not qualified..but simply because opportunities are hard to find..

Being jobless is mentally draining..unaamka every day thinking too much kuhusu life..days start feeling long and pointless...

If you smoke, you find yourself smoking more just to pass time and escape your own thoughts for a while..

And not all of us came from well off families with connections or soft landings...some people are surviving completely on their own...So when someone offers you a 24 hour shift for 1K, you convince yourself it’s okay because at least kuna kitu inaingia...smh

But if we’re being real… is it actually okay?

Or have we become so desperate for survival that exploitation now looks like opportunity?

Right now, 1K in most households is gone in a blink..so how did we get here, where even something that feels unfair starts to look acceptable just because hakuna options?

Are we settling for survival instead of living, or is this just what life has become for most of us? Waaaaaah

Still, we hope for better jobs, better pay, and better days.

What do y'all do on your birthdays? Apart from clubbing and all that regular staff

I really wonder how our parents managed to stay together for 20+ years..respect to my dad btw because relationships huku nje are not easy at all...

Personally, kukaa na dem imekuwa hard juu nowadays it feels like nobody really takes time to understand each other properly...

Everyone is moving like relationships are temporary ama replaceable..one small misunderstanding and mtu ako back on the market immediately..

And honestly, for those who genuinely found “the one” congrats bana...i envy that kind of connection. Me I know myself… nikipata dem ananielewa, mwenye ako focused and standing on business too, we can literally build something huge together.

I’m the type to go all in for my person..shida ni kupata mtu anajua value ya partnership and teamwork..

Sometimes I wonder if social media ndio imeharibu things...people are comparing relationships 24/7, attention spans zimepungua, nobody wants to be patient anymore, and everyone thinks there’s always “better”

Anyway back to my bachelor era again siwezani.👐🏾

Looking for F(24-30)

My birthday is up on monday (18th) ..i never really do anything but i was thinking of doing something for myself this time.

Everything is on me..no matter how small budgeted it'll be..

I just want company from a beautiful lady.

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I’m a bartender/mixologist and today I worked at an event that was very different from the environments I’m used to.

I rarely attend those kinds of spaces and honestly… it humbled me in a good way.

You can be somewhere thinking you’ve seen a lot uko fiti then you step into a different environment and immediately realize there’s so much more out there.

Different standards, different energy, different ways people carry themselves and even network..

Most of the people I were with are based around Westy while I mostly operate around Thika Road, and the difference was honestly eye opening...not even in a bad way just made me realize how important exposure is...

Working in more exotic/high end environments really uplifts you mentally, socially and even professionally.

It changes how you think, speak, present yourself and what you believe is possible for you.

All the ladies reading this, msitake this personally 😂 we as your men tunawapenda fr.

Ever since nitoe dreads, nimekuwa nikihunt barber shops left right center juu the first guy alininyoa vibaya mpaka haircut ikakua disaster 😭 so I’ve been trying different spots looking for that clean, proper cut.

Today I walked into this one place and wueh… nimefeel POA bana.

You know that part after the shave where unaoshwa, maybe a small massage then unaenda zako? Sasa this one ilikuwa tofauti 😭 and gents, mjue si pesa pekee hufanya mtu aende extra mile… being chill and vibing pia contributes..

From the moment niliingia, me and this lady tuliclick instantly. Nikamtumia 1/4 mbili tusiboeke sana 😂 vibes zikaanza hapo. Everything was smooth mpaka tukafika massage room…

Fam, I was there for like 45 mins and she still didn’t want to stop 😭 the nasty talk ilikuwa ya kuniconfuse kabisa. I was just there thinking “wewe unataka aje na mimi?” 😂

Then things escalated even more… akalock room, alikuwa ready kwenda all in. Mimi hapo ndio nilianza kushangaa… is this normal huku nje ama ni mimi sijui hizi streets? 😂

At some point nilikuwa najiuliza, “wait… does she do this with all clients?” juu mimi nimezoea barbershop services lakini hii ilikuwa premium plus ultra package 😭

Anyway, kama unajipenda unaacha i-slide 😂 but najua most men wouldn’t.

Be safe out there my fellow gents

I said I’d never contact you again because I genuinely wanted to move on the right way.

But some nights still feel like unfinished conversations.

I keep pretending I’m okay because life keeps moving. Work. Music. Noise. Friends. Responsibilities.

But healing is weird when the person who hurt you also once felt like home.

My mom told me recently that love isn’t just about staying it’s about learning how to treat people better than what you experienced yourself.

I think about that a lot now.

Maybe that’s why I disappeared quietly instead of fighting louder.

Maybe that’s why I still write songs instead of texts.

You’ll probably never read this.

And maybe that’s the point.

I just hope one day someone loves you gently enough that you finally understand why I tried so hard.

Happy Mother’s Day to my MOM and every mother out there doing their best even when life has not been kind to them..

Personally, my mom has really struggled a lot raising us..after 18 years in marriage, she had to walk away and start over again... i can only imagine how hard that must have been, but somehow she still kept showing up for us every single day...

What touched me recently is hearing her remind me why I should treat my future wife better and why love should never feel heavy or painful...as the first born, she also told me I should help my younger siblings believe things can still get better despite everything we’ve experienced as a family.

And honestly that stayed with me man..

Because even after everything she went through, she still believes in love, still believes in family, and still roots for me to have a successful marriage one day.That kind of strength is something I’ll never overlook..

This is an appreciation post to my mom and all moms here.

Happy Mother’s Day in advance ❤️

We all work everydaybecause we want a good life..

But somewhere along the way, life starts feeling like one long shift.

You wake up, think about money, responsibilities, pressure, expectations, deadlines… then repeat it all again tomorrow

So this is just a random reminder to slow down for a second today..

Breathe. Drink some water. Step outside for a minute if you can. Text someone you care about. Listen to that one song you love..

A good life isn’t only the destination we’re chasing..sometimes it’s also these small moments in between all the struggling...

Have a good day

I have this friend whose job has really been down lately, so this month he completely lacked rent money...thankfully, he has managed to sort it now.

But he was telling me how weird it felt that his wife didn’t step in to help with rent just this once, especially since he’s always the one handling it.

He genuinely thought this time she’d save the situation because he was totally down financially, but wapi..

The wife says rent should still be paid by the man, yet she actually has money..according to him, she’s willing to sort out everything else in the house, just not rent.

Now he’s confused because he literally had no money at all, while she was financially okay.

Do you think that’s reasonable or fair?

All the ladies reading this, msitake this personally 😂 we as your men tunawapenda fr.

Ever since nitoe dreads, nimekuwa nikihunt barber shops left right center juu the first guy alininyoa vibaya mpaka haircut ikakua disaster 😭 so I’ve been trying different spots looking for that clean, proper cut.

Today I walked into this one place and wueh… nimefeel POA bana.

You know that part after the shave where unaoshwa, maybe a small massage then unaenda zako? Sasa this one ilikuwa tofauti 😭 and gents, mjue si pesa pekee hufanya mtu aende extra mile… being chill and vibing pia contributes..

From the moment niliingia, me and this lady tuliclick instantly. Nikamtumia 1/4 mbili tusiboeke sana 😂 vibes zikaanza hapo. Everything was smooth mpaka tukafika massage room…

Fam, I was there for like 45 mins and she still didn’t want to stop 😭 the nasty talk ilikuwa ya kuniconfuse kabisa. I was just there thinking “wewe unataka aje na mimi?” 😂

Then things escalated even more… akalock room, alikuwa ready kwenda all in. Mimi hapo ndio nilianza kushangaa… is this normal huku nje ama ni mimi sijui hizi streets? 😂

At some point nilikuwa najiuliza, “wait… does she do this with all clients?” juu mimi nimezoea barbershop services lakini hii ilikuwa premium plus ultra package 😭

Anyway, kama unajipenda unaacha i-slide 😂 but najua most men wouldn’t.

Be safe out there my fellow gents

I been litsening to solitaires and damn man travis finessed the shit out this song i bet future waa going crazy 😂