(17M) got hit and choked by my dad (~40M)
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Serious Rant incoming. My dad a few days ago asked me to clear my room, no big deal but he threatened me that if i didn't do it he could destroy my life in 2 seconds.
this probably was a mistake but i didn't do it, not because i was being lazy, rather out of spite of his constant violent threats whenever he asked anything (it became Sort of a common thing, that he would threaten me like this when my mom wasn't listening).
Yesterday he asked me if i did it with His voice already raised, i said that i did not (truth) and he asked me why, i answered that i forgot (lie, like i said, it was out of spite. if my mom asked it would be done at the moment because she never is this violent). "turn off that thing" he says pointing at my Notebook and i answer 'Hold up, why does it have to be like this?', "because i say so" while approaching me and screaming, i say 'there's no need to get violent', "SHUT THE FUCK UP", 'no, I also have the right to speak and-'.
in that moment he hits me a quite strong backhand slap, and i wasn't going to just stay there and take it so i retaliate with a punch to the face. we both get shocked for an instant and then he chokeslammed me to my bed with both hands. my whole family (grandparents from my mom's side and my mother herself) had to come to get him off me and after a heated discussion my grandpa takes me to his room so i calm down.
after that i Don't know what happened with him but i want him to leave. i Don't want my sister (10F) to see anything else like this, she literally cried that "i Don't want a violent family, i want a good family". i just wanted to get this out of my chest, I'm shaking while remembering all this that happened last night and even though i was wrong in some part because i really should've cleaned my room, this whole thing shouldn't have escalated like it did. did he really need to get so heated about this?
sorry and thanks for reading this far