Would you date you?

Something I've observed in the Christian community is that you people want unicorns and there's sufficient evidence to back this claim even in this sub.

But sometimes you need to get back to the drawing board and take a look at yourself. Strip naked and look in the mirror if it helps😂. Analyse your social skills, conversation skills, physical image, spiritual immaturity, finances, career, traits like discipline, solving conflict, etc. ........Then ask yourself "would I date someone like me?" Then go back to your long list of demands and compare the two (eg "she must be intelligent, beautiful,funny,virgin, devoted to God, young etc") and ask yourself "would this Christian man/woman want me?" ......Sometimes we should be willing to compromise eg if you aren't a virgin why are you hyperfixated on getting a virgin partner? I think it's only valid to tick that off your long list of deal breakers.(Just an example)

Anyway find areas in your life where you are lacking and make it your life's mission to improve those little things. I think that's what the purpose of being single should be (Of course nobody is perfect and perfection is never the goal but we can be better).

Spirituality should move alongside self awareness imo. Have a blessed weekend

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u/Chocolate8114 — 2 days ago

Can I get a research position at mayo jax or anywhere in Florida

I did MBBS outside USA and going to start my house job next month which ends next year in july. I want to find a research position and finish all the paperwork within this year such that by the end, I just fly for USCE/Research. Do you guys have any recs

YOG 2026

No publications

Preparing for step 1

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u/Chocolate8114 — 6 days ago

26F, East African

I can't be the only person scared of posting an intro but am 5'5, Ugandan, brown eyes obviously😂 and no health issues except insomnia maybe. I've tried to get pictures where am wearing almost no make up except picture 1 with some lipstick.

Personality

I am friendly and compassionate. People call me kind and generous. I'm usually reserved but talkative in spaces where I feel comfortable and naturally I laugh a lot even in serious situations but am a serious person when I put on my big girl pants. I'm an INFJ.

Love language

I think all the 4 in a good balance and I always reciprocate the love languages am given but at the core, I cannot choose just 1 out of them.

Area of study/work:

I work in healthcare with 2 degrees. 1 in medicine and the second one in surgery

Hobbies/interests:

I have quite a range of hobbies. Am an indoors person but I do outdoor activities sometimes. Anything really. YouTube is always my most watched app and I love watching movies/shows (thrillers , drama/comedy, a good romcom, literally anything as long as it's not a horror).

Am a huge music lover but I don't know how to sing

One of my lifelong plans is to open a non-profit to empower single mothers and their families.

Tell us a bit about your Christian journey:

I've been a protestant all my life and I swayed away from Jesus around 15-19years. I didn't do anything crazy because I have a strict mum but rebuilt my relationship with Jesus at in 2019 when I was 19

What sort of person are you looking for?

A lover of Jesus who's not Christian only in words but also in their actions.

Age range: 25-35 but can be adjusted

Would you be willing to do long distance/relocate?

At this point am open to LDR and relocation only for the right person, because I can earn a living in any place literally so am not closing mind within a box.

If you read this far, feel free to send me a DM

Edit: I stay in Kampala so if you can't do another continent, let's both save our time and keep scrolling.

u/Chocolate8114 — 22 days ago

Officially left medical school todayyy!

I have never posted a picture of myself on reddit but damm I want to. Graduated 2 degrees today(1 in medicine and another in surgery) and I feel amazing! It's been a very tough journey considering I was raised by a single mom of 7 who can barely read English. Am more proud of her than myself . Keep winning ladies

u/Chocolate8114 — 22 days ago

Would you date someone who loves God and is compatible in other areas but has very poor financial discipline (budgeting, saving, etc) because they believe God will provide in the future?

Would you date someone who loves God and is compatible in other areas but has very poor financial discipline (budgeting, saving, etc) because they believe God will provide in the future?

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u/Chocolate8114 — 1 month ago