Keep having nightmares that my partner gets drunk and does terrible things
Twice this week i’ve had crazy scary nightmares; both in completely different scenarios but both ending with my girlfriend getting drunk and basically doing something to force me to end the relationship.
For context, neither I nor my girlfriend are drinkers at all remotely, and she being a devout muslim has never drank before in her life. I have when i was younger and never enjoyed it and sought out a partner who didn’t either, as my mother had drug/alcohol addiction issues.
Also for both of these nightmares they happened when i had a complete nights sleep, woke up in the morning and talked to her on the phone before hanging up and going back to bed, and then immediately having these crazy realistic nightmares. Her calling me irl also woke me up from both nightmares, so i was able to instantly rely what happened so i remember them better
In the first dream we went to a casino-ish place and she got super drunk (once again she’s muslim so she’d never drink or gamble), made a scene and then forced us in the car before driving off the rails, fleeing from police and basically getting us killed by the cops😭 the entire time she was acting incredibly irrational and unlike herself at all and the dream ended with the cops shooting into the car window and her calling me irl
the second dream (which i’m like 20 mins removed from experiencing and still sweaty from) started out as a good dream actually. me and her were on a date in my old college town and were acting all lovey dovey before she got called by some friends and decided to go to like a frat party of some sorts. She went herself and i agreed to meet her there, and when I got there she was shit faced drunk.
She and her friends (none of her friends drink either obviously) kept giving me excuses as to why she drank and i ended up pulling her into a room alone to question wtf is going on and why she’s doing this. She then proceeded to say the most nasty and heinous things to me which i don’t even wanna repeat in here, so incredibly loudly that the whole party stopped and payed attention to us. eventually i was able to get her to a state where we could converse and ask her if she was going to continue drinking and if this was going to be how she acted when she did and she said yes.
in both dreams i had to come to terms with the fact that i had to break up with the love my my life for these actions, actions that are SO unlike her irl and that i could never ever see her doing irl.
I really want to know what this might mean. I feel very secure and happy in this relationship; she’s an amazing girl who’s literally my DREAM woman and wouldn’t think about ending it at all, and i know for sure she’d never do half of the things she’s done in these dreams, so im super curious as to what they could mean about how i maybe perceive her and this.
For the record recently i’ve consumed a lot less cannabis than i had in the past, which has led to me having more intense and hyper realistic dreams that i end up remembering. I also have many more have pleasant and cute dreams involving my girlfriend, about fun times we’ve shared or our future. But these two nightmares have been so gut wrenching and legit terrifying that i really wanna know what someone might make of it. Thanks:)